Hi Lovely Ladies,
I'm hoping your all having a good week so far. This is my first week back at work sad
I'm sorry that things aren't going so well for some of you but I'm sending you lots of babydust and praying that 2012 is your year!
I am only a newbie to TTC. DH (24) & me (21) have been married for just over a year now and since we got married we haven't been TTC but we haven't not been TTC. We decided to do the Billings Method so that we don't have to use protection because as I'm sure you all know that without is just so much better! Sorry if that is TMI smile But we were careful when I noticed CM.
My doctors knows that we are now officially TTC. The last time I saw her she said to me that she is surprised that I haven't conceived yet. This made me really worried and now when AF arrives it pops into my head that something is wrong. The first month we tried I think I put DH off (WHO KNEW IT WAS POSSIBLE!) But I have read so many articles and pregnancy books about how your body works and what to do to increase your chances. Even though once I get the BFP (Hope one day I do anyway FX) I'll be happy that I know everything I do but ATM I'm worried I will put to much pressure on myself when I'm fertile and when AF arrives. I also have a longer cycle which makes the wait longer before I can take a HPT. I now refuse to use one unless I get to CD42 and I have cramps.
Anyway, I just wanted to share a little bit more about myself - hoping I didn't share too much)
I would love to hear about anyone else's journey and feelings during the month, if any smile
Sending lots of babydust to you all!
TTC is such emotional journey nd its really important that u dnt put to much pressure on ur self or ur DH, it's stressful enough with out adding unneeded pressure of urself.
U have really long cycles r u taking any vitamins?
[left] it's really important to pay special attention to our men on this TTC journey. We sometimes think men r men nd they seem to have a blahzay approach nd dnt show there emotions when in actual fact they r shattered just as much as we r. We sometimes r a little selfish in thinking it's us that go through the ***, pills, af, pms ect but the fact is if ur TTC then u BOTH have come to want to start a family nd the men r just as excited as u r nd also share ur disappointments, the highs, the lows nd all that goes with it. It's really important that u try nd keep the romance alive when BDing nd keep that spark going, maybe make "date nights" or just make him feel special at times, to often the men end up feeling like there only needed in the bedroom when its "that time" when the big O rolls around so they feel used just for there sperm. [/left]
[left]Yes we have feelings nd emotions as well nd we need to have some affection but somehow us women no how to keep everything in check, we have our huge cry when AF arrives, or a HPT says BFN but we quickly get over it to some point nd more forward to the nxt month ahead, our poor men on the other hand dnt get over it like we do. [/left]
[left]My DH did feel like this when we first started TTC but after a long deep nd meaningful I realised he was shattered to every month we didn't get our BFP, so now I pay special attention to him, not that I didn't b4 but I dnt allow him to feel like he is just a sperm bank. [/left]
[left]Anyhow I have really rambled here lol so I hope u all get wot I was trying to say nd it wasn't just all dribble lol lol[/left]
[left]AFM- [/left][left]My DH nd I lost our beautiful twin boys full term at birth early in 2010 then not long after that I fell pregnant again but sadly MC. So for the last 20 months we have have been trying, I have done 7 rounds of clomid nd about to do my 8th. I had another MC the other month (not anything to do with clomid, sadly it was just 1 of those things) then I never got AF for the nxt cycle (no clomid) nd got my BFP on the 19th of Dec. I am MC as we speak, we were having triplets, so now I am having bloods drawn every 48 hours till my levels go back to zero nd I can get back on the TTC journey. I started with really high levels due to them being triplets so its taking awhile to come down but they r coming down at a steady rate, yesterdays levels was 2389 which is high still but the doc is hopeful that by the end of nxt week they should b back to zero.[/left][left] [/left]
[left]For all the new ladies I strongly suggest u get on vitamins I can share with u my vitamin combo for both u nd ur DH, its really important that the men r on them as well. I got my BFP's on the combo also a few other ladies have also gone on to get there BFP shortly after starting the combo. [/left]
[left]I wish u all the luck in the world nd hope that ur journey is a short 1[/left]