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Hey there everyone! My friend's looking to decide between IVF or surrogacy. She's having troubles conceiving naturally. If you could help her decide that'd be great. But alongside that, she's also worried what her family might think. I tell her not to worry about it too much since it's her life. But she still worries. Any solid points to help convince her family or just my friend to help her move on? TIA.
They just got to understand that this is her need of life.
She wants this badly for her life for her relationship. She is not doing this for her own.
My friend had similar circumstances she had her baby through IVF and he is now the world of that family.
No one could ever consider that he is IVF baby. Her elder sister loves her beyond anything.
Each one who consider this procedure as false one they just got to observe that family for a day.
That IVF baby has just returned their happiness and fills the emptiness.
IVF and surrogacy both are equally great. It's just that what would suits you better.
Thier might be thought that you can't wait anymore and you just want to carry baby in your arms as soon as possible so in that case, surrogacy would be great,
Either way, IVF has multiple cycles and you would never certain that what cycle would suit you.
There is a case where they had a baby in a very first cycle and even there were cases when they find to be struggling with even their 5th cycle.
This is probably your choice what you think would be good for you.
Good luck.
Hi. It's so sad. I really wish there were lesser fertility problems. These problems really depress us. I hope you're friend's feeling okay. Well, I'd say go for IVF if she has healthy eggs. But if not, then surrogacy is her best option. I had surrogacy as well.
Hey there Viky. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your friend's infertility. I wish she gets what she wants. I would suggest surrogacy. It's really a blessing. Good luck. take care.
I'm afraid I don't know much about your friend's health issues preventing her from successful pregnancy.
IVF may be an option if your friend or her partner has:
Fallopian tube damage or blockage. This cause makes it difficult for an egg to be fertilized or for an embryo to travel to the uterus.
Ovulation disorders. If ovulation is infrequent or absent, fewer eggs are available for fertilization.
Premature ovarian failure. It's the loss of normal ovarian function before age 40. If your ovaries fail, they don't produce normal amounts of the hormone estrogen or have eggs to release regularly.
Endometriosis which occurs when the uterine tissue implants and grows outside of the uterus. It often affects the function of the ovaries, uterus and fallopian tubes. Uterine fibroids which are common in women in their 30s and 40s.
Fibroids can interfere with implantation of the fertilized egg. Previous tubal sterilization or removal. If you've had tubal ligation and want to conceive, IVF may be an alternative to tubal ligation reversal.
Impaired sperm production or function. Below-average sperm concentration. weak movement of sperm. abnormalities in sperm size and shape can make it difficult for sperm to fertilize an egg. If semen abnormalities are found, your partner might need to see a specialist to determine if there are correctable problems or underlying health concerns.
Unexplained infertility which means no cause of infertility has been found despite evaluation for common causes.
A genetic disorder. If you or your partner is at risk of passing on a genetic disorder to your child, you may be candidates for preimplantation genetic diagnosis.
Still your friend should consider all the possible risks which IVF process involves.
Multiple births. IVF increases the risk of multiple births if more than one embryo is implanted in your uterus. A pregnancy with multiple fetuses carries a higher risk of early labor and low birth weight than pregnancy with a single fetus does.
Premature delivery and low birth weight. Research suggests that use of IVF slightly increases the risk that a baby will be born early or with a low birth weight.
Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome. Use of injectable fertility drugs, such as human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG), to induce ovulation can cause ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome, in which your ovaries become swollen and painful.
Signs and symptoms typically last a week and include mild abdominal pain, bloating, nausea, vomiting and diarrhea. If you become pregnant, however, your symptoms might last several weeks. Rarely, it's possible to develop a more-severe form of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome that can also cause rapid weight gain and shortness of breath.
Miscarriage. The rate of miscarriage for women who conceive using IVF with fresh embryos is similar to that of women who conceive naturally - about 15 to 25 percent - but the rate increases with maternal age. Use of frozen embryos during IVF, however, may slightly increase the risk of miscarriage.
Egg-retrieval procedure complications. Use of an aspirating needle to collect eggs could possibly cause bleeding, infection or damage to the bowel, bladder or a blood vessel. Risks are also associated with general anesthesia, if used.
Ectopic pregnancy. About 2 to 5 percent of women who use IVF will have an ectopic pregnancy - when the fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, usually in a fallopian tube. The fertilized egg can't survive outside the uterus, and there's no way to continue the pregnancy.
Birth defects. The age of the mother is the primary risk factor in the development of birth defects, no matter how the child is conceived. More research is needed to determine whether babies conceived using IVF might be at increased risk of certain birth defects. Some experts believe that the use of IVF does not increase the risk of having a baby with birth defects.
Ovarian cancer. Although some early studies suggested there may be a link between certain medications used to stimulate egg growth and the development of a specific type of ovarian tumor, more recent studies do not support these findings.
Stress. Use of IVF can be financially, physically and emotionally draining. Support from counselors, family and friends can help you and your partner through the ups and downs of infertility treatment.
I'm not saying all this to make you sad or sth. These are just the things we all should be realistic about. Of course, if your friend decides over surrogacy, she'll avoid the hugest set of risk, except possible ovarian hyperstimulation. All the other risks fall onto the surro though. I'm sure dr will advise the best in her particular case. Good luck.
Family comes around. That should be the least of her concerns. She should talk to her doctor about it. If her doctor thinks there a good chance of IVF working for her according to her condition then go for it. If not then, there's no point wasting money on IVF. If I had good chances with IVF I would've gone for it. Every mother wants to carry her baby herself. I hope this was helpful. Good luck to her.
We underwent ivf shot with donor egg. I'm 38 yrs old. We did pass 2 ivf cycles with own eggs with my ex. That time we also had a male issue. My ex had low sperm quality. And my right ovary never responded to treatments which is strange enough..We usually got a good number of eggs. But once fertilised, they developed poorly and slow. We also wanted to try to see if our embryos would grow better without getting taken out once a day for the scientists to look at. Here I'm talking about EmbryoScope usage..(Average costs in the UK - £700).
Well, things changed. I met my Mr Right. We both wanted kids so much that's why we started another round ivf. This time went overseas for affordable prices mostly. My AMH test results came in 3% only. Our new Dr told us it won't do. She adviced turning to donor egg. We didn't have to look for the perfect donor for long with them. Donor matching process passed quickly so soon we could start the program itself. They placed back 2 nice 5day embies during ET. I got bfp, currently waiting for the scan date. So, on the whole this was our 3rd attempt of treatments. But this was actually ivf#1 with donor egg successful. So we tried 3 times ivf before got prego. All the best of luck, ladies, with your cycles.
Hi. It's so sad. I really wish there were lesser fertility problems I hope you're friend's feeling okay.

I'd say go for IVF if she has healthy eggs. But if not, then surrogacy is her best option. Surrogacy in Ukraine doesn't take a lot of money and guarantees you a baby.

Best wishes, World Center of Baby

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