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Suansue14 wrote:
I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know how you feel. You're not alone with this! I don't have a uterus but I have a desire to become a mother. Well there are some options for me. I chose surrogacy. Now I'm looking for information and where it can be done. This process is not easy at all. Sometimes I feel like I'm stuck and no one can help. I can't talk about it with friends or family. All people I know have children and don't have problems with fertility. They just don't get it. They will never understand how I feel. It feels like every month someone announces their pregnancy. Every month someone makes a baby shower. Not to mention all those photos of kids in social network. This is so hard and sometimes I feel like I can't take it anymore. I don't want to be rude but sometimes I have to skip baby showers or babies’ birthdays. I have to make up reasons not to go and it makes me feel a bad person. But what can I do? I'm sure when I will have my baby it will be easy for me. I will be able to divide happiness of parenthood with my friends. But now it makes me feel even more stressed than I am.

I'm coming again and again to this place hoping for all lovelies here struggling for their little ones. And this pains so much to see there are so many who've been suffering through yrs..I know how it feels seeing pregos around and knowing you're not likely to be the next on the list..I've always been in the straigned relationship with my cousin's wife. I'll explain. I even deactivated the social media. But I just had the feeling that because she was so young and he was such an idiot there was going to be all this resentment about me not fawning over her. Even though I was really just protecting my own heart and preserving her happiness for herself. She was one of those "other girls hate me" types with lots of constant meme posting about how people betray her etc. In other words, she was 23. If they couldn't figure out that maybe it wouldn't be a good idea to send us a fanfare filled driveby pregnancy text then I was not sure they had the maturity to understand distancing oneself due to pain.. I wish I could be excited or happy but I wasn't. Maybe it was because their children weren't related to me. Or maybe because I was not super close to them. Or I was personally experiencing with miscarriage then..Or the feelings of negativity I already had about that time of year.. Some living reminders of the child that I lost.. How could I ever expected to get over that and be happy for someone else?!.
Andie.Berg wrote:
I hope your surrogacy procedure goes well. The clinic you have mentioned is the most renowned clinic in this process. I have heard so many success stories and they are all linked to it. For surrogacy the thing that matters the most is a good clinic. The clinic should be operating legally. The rules and policies should be clearly defined as well. All of these sum up and define a clinic. I visited this clinic after doing all of this research. It is because of this reason that I am so satisfied. They are doing a great job. Everything is extremely coordinated. They are very systematic as well which for me matters a lot. I am excited and hoping for the best. Good luck to you as well. I hope things go well.

Hi, just adding more details. The bio texcom team is ready to fully assist you in your program after contracts are signed. they will guide you step by step along this journey. They will be happy to answer your calls, emails and messages during the working time: Monday - Friday from 9 am till 5 pm (UTC + 2 time zone). Normally, you get your email response within 48 hours (for business day). If you’re not getting the answer, then just check spam folder. Communication outside the working time is possible only in case of emergency. for example, you or your baby needs urgent medical help. Or your flight is delayed and you’re not managing to come in time for the procedure etc. Anyway, you can address all your needs to them and be sure they'll take them at heart. Also the logistics department deal with dozens of arrival and departures daily. That's why you should send your flight details at least 48 hours prior to your arrival time. Things are the best coordinated. Moreover, they've got 24/7 support line for their patients. with English speaking staff. That's definitely another source of info if there's need.
Thought this might help someone looking for the approximate treatment schedule if undergone in ukraine.~
The initial consultation is to be scheduled at least 1 week ahead and contains the following activities:
A set of tests depending on the program (fasting is mandatory)
Consultation with a fertility specialist who will be in charge of your program (in case of stimulation you will need to have the transvaginal ultrasound check done)
Consultation with a manager who will guide you through the program step by step
Signing of contracts
First payment (please note, if you are taking medications for stimulation from the clinic, the medications are to be paid in cash on the day of consultation).
Before any initial consultation you will receive the Guidelines for the Initial Consultation – failure to follow these recommendations may affect the initial consultation in a negative way.
After you sign contracts and make the first payment, the medical team starts the selection process that includes:
Initial pre-selection by the local coordinator
Consultation of the fertility specialist in Bio texcom in Kiev
Consultation of a psychologist
Legal consultation and verification of documents
screening for possible addictions (urine and blood tests)
This check-up process, including all necessary tests and exams, takes about 1 month.
The cycle of egg donor or the biological mother is synchronised with the cycle of a surrogate mother. According to your contract you have to follow all doctors instruction. In case of self-treatment or violation of the treatment protocol, the clinic may cancel the cycle and terminate the contract.
The date of the pick up is scheduled by the doctor in charge of the program
The Intended Parents are informed about it beforehand (at least 5 days before)
If the Intended Parents wish to use previously frozen sperm sample for fertilisation they shall notify the program coordinator about that by email no later than 24 hours before the procedure
If it is the second/further attempt and more than 2.5 months has passed since your last blood test in the clinic, please be ready to have your blood test repeated, and that means fasting in the morning
In case the biological mother undergoes hormonal stimulation and is being prepared for egg retrieval, the second visit may take up to 10 days
If we are talking about surrogacy using own eggs it is not recommended to leave the same day. Flying the following day is fine
The rules for sperm donation are similar as for the initial consultation – a man needs to abstain from ejaculation from 3 to 5 days before
The second payment (according to your contract) is to be made on this day if in cash, prior to this day if by the bank transfer.
After fertilisation the embryo development is monitored by our embryology unit.
The embryo transfer takes place on the 5th day as we are transferring the blastocysts.
You will receive the protocol of embryo cultivation and transfer within 3 working days after the embryo transfer.The HCG test takes place 2 weeks after the embryo transfer. The surrogate mother has her test in Bio texcom. The results of the test are known the day after the test.
The first ultrasound scan is carried out in 2 weeks after the positive HCG test by the doctor in charge of the program. The report will be send the same or the next day after the check.
What you can expect during pregnancy monitorying:
Monthly ultrasound checks from the 12th week of pregnancy. Reports along with video and/or pictures will be send the same or the next day. For trisomy screenings, results will be send within 5 working days.
Trisomy 13, 18, 21 – on the 12th week of pregnancy
Trisomy 18, 21 – on the 16th week of pregnancy
If you will be present during the delivery (only available in the VIP Surrogacy package) you need to come prior to delivery to undergo the medical tests. You will be informed about right time to come by your program coordinator.
When your surrogate mother is going for planned hospitalisation your program coordinator will let you know. This may give you the idea of what is the best time to come.
As a rule if the delivery is in a natural way the baby will be discharged in 3-4 days from the maternity house. In case of twins or c-section it might take up to 7 days for the babies to stay in the maternity house. In case of premature birth or any complications, the baby(s) obviously stay in the hospital for a longer period.
If your contract is Standard – you will be visiting the baby during the daytime. If your contract is VIP Surrogacy – you will be staying in the hospital with a baby in a separate room.
In order to obtain the birth certificate you will need to have your marriage certificate apostilled in the country that issued that marriage certificate. For countries that are not participants of the Hague Convention, abolishing the Requirement of Legalisation for Foreign Public Documents (Apostille convention) – the marriage certificate should be legalised. Apostille is not the same as legalisation. You may click the following link in order to check if your country is the participant of the Hague Convention https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Apostille_Convention
If the name on your marriage certificate differs in any way from the name on your passport (e.g. there is a middle name on one or not the other, or surnames differ) – you need to obtain an official intermediate document confirming your identity. Failure to provide such document may cause your process delay. Your program coordinator will advise you with all such issues.
In order to obtain the birth certificate both intended parents need to be present in the country
The birth certificate will be submitted for apostillation, translation and notarisation.
After the birth certificate is obtained the embassy process starts
The clinic provides you full documentary support of the exit process
The embassy process differs for every country, so the waiting time is different for every particular case
Some of the Embassies will require additional DNA test performed on their premises – this additional DNA test is not covered by the clinic
It is recommend that you agree all of your actions associated with the exit process with your program coordinator.
Hope this helps. All the very best with your fertility journeys!!
Hey there Paggie! I hope you are doing well. I agree with you Surrogacy is such a blessing. It's a helping a lot of people to achieve their dreams, I m one of them. The clinic you mentioned is where I am having my treatment right now. The staff is so experienced and they know how to deal with their patients. I found out about this clinic through people, everyone was recommending this clinic. I m glad I made this decision of opting for this clinic. The clinic is doing an exceptional job. It's not even that expensive like other clinics and the services they offer at such a low price are on point. I m in the middle of my treatment tho, my surrogate is pregnant and all I have to do now is wait for the due date. This clinic really played a big part in my treatment, if it wasn't for them I would have given up a long time ago. Stay blessed! Good Luck everyone!
Hello. How are you doing? I think considering other options is the wise decision here. This will solve your problem. TTC gets very hard and frustrating. I don't think waiting any longer would not do you any good. This also messes with your mental health. Take a break for yourself for a while. You need to think things through. I'm really sorry about your struggles. But it is time to accept your reality and do something about it. I'm glad you realized your problem here. You have already taken the first step. Take baby steps from here. Everything will work out for you for sure. Dont lose hope.
MarilynRivera wrote:
Hey there Paggie! I hope you are doing well. I agree with you Surrogacy is such a blessing. It's a helping a lot of people to achieve their dreams, I m one of them. The clinic you mentioned is where I am having my treatment right now. The staff is so experienced and they know how to deal with their patients. I found out about this clinic through people, everyone was recommending this clinic. I m glad I made this decision of opting for this clinic. The clinic is doing an exceptional job. It's not even that expensive like other clinics and the services they offer at such a low price are on point. I m in the middle of my treatment tho, my surrogate is pregnant and all I have to do now is wait for the due date. This clinic really played a big part in my treatment, if it wasn't for them I would have given up a long time ago. Stay blessed! Good Luck everyone!

Congrats with your surrogate's pregnancy! May the rest of months go healthy and smooth to both!
The clinic's role cannot be exaggerated. Making a good choice is ''vital'' for the whole process. Some clinics are also taking advantage of egg-freezing technology. According to latest data, the rate of live births from fresh donor eggs is 56%. and the rate of live births from thawed eggs is 43%. The clinic we were dealing with performs fresh transfers only. Moreover if you need to use donor eggs, they guarantee at least 3 A grade embies for the ET, which is awesome. as we all know A grades are not usual at all. The thing I loved the most aboit bio tex was that I could address all my concerns and get quick answers. Whether it was our sweet manager/nurse/dr we talked to or 24/7 English speaking support line --I was sure to get accurate answers! Another point is that the clinic invests in its business. meaning their equipment is new, modern. Comfortable amusing interior. Every time we visisted the clinic there were some minor repairments, not bothering, but for us it looked like good sign - they do care about their patients and their comfy stay inside the clinic. And the most important - their gorgeous staff. Guys KNOW the field!!
Cathymccartney098 wrote:
Hello. How are you doing? I think considering other options is the wise decision here. This will solve your problem. TTC gets very hard and frustrating. I don't think waiting any longer would not do you any good. This also messes with your mental health. Take a break for yourself for a while. You need to think things through. I'm really sorry about your struggles. But it is time to accept your reality and do something about it. I'm glad you realized your problem here. You have already taken the first step. Take baby steps from here. Everything will work out for you for sure. Dont lose hope.

So much support in your post! Egg donation might also be a helpful route in many cases. This way we opt for the good quality, ''young'' eggs while ours are of no use any more. Egg donors go through a very stringent psychological evaluation. The clinic's main job is to build a profile of the donor from every angle. Including personality, intellectual capabilities, motivation, level of responsibility, and health background. Their questions during the initial interview cover the donor’s education history and grade point average and her family’s professional background. They ask the donor to describe her personality traits: Is she talkative, shy, confident, caring etc. Many potential donors do not make the cut in bio texcom. Women who smoke, use illicit drugs, or consume excessive amounts of alcohol are immediately rejected! Psychological disorders are also a gray area. They will never accept a donor if she has been diagnosed with schizophrenia or severe manic depression. In other clinics the mild history of anxiety or depression usually does not preclude them from becoming donors. Other clinics just ask how many generations back it goes and whether they’ve had an episode recently. It all goes into the report, and it’s up to the doctor to make the decision!! which is an absolute rubbish, I would never want my donor be a depressive one or sth of this kind. I'm glad Bio tex takes extremelly precise look onto all those things.
Hey Paggie, you have indeed gone through a lot. Surrogacy is one of the procedures for which visiting the right clinic is very important. Therefore, I am glad that you are researching on it. There are a few things that matter a lot when it comes down to finding the clinic for yourself. Firstly, make sure that the clinic is operating legally. Secondly, make sure that the clinic has doctors that are experienced. They should know how to carry the process out. Then also check the services and the programs they offer. These are all the things that I saw in the clinic which I am recently in contact with. They are wonderful! I would suggest that you give them a try. If you want more detailed information about them I can provide it to you. Good luck to you. Don't lose hope! Sending baby dust your way.
I hope your surrogacy procedure goes well. The clinic you have mentioned is the most renowned clinic in this process. I have heard so many success stories and they are all linked to it. For surrogacy the thing that matters the most is a good clinic. The clinic should be operating legally. The rules and policies should be clearly defined as well. All of these sum up and define a clinic. I visited this clinic after doing all of this research. It is because of this reason that I am so satisfied. They are doing a great job. Everything is extremely coordinated. They are very systematic as well which for me matters a lot. I am excited and hoping for the best. Good luck to you as well. I hope things go well.
Hi, lovely. I'm sorry you're going through this. We all are here for you.
In an IVF cycle you maximize your chances by generating as many mature eggs as possible. IVF medications are often complicated. You’ll likely be self-administering a combination of injections, patches, and pills. (Under the stress of IVF, it’s very easy to forget what medications you need to take at what times. If this happens to you, don’t be embarrassed or alarmed, but seek help and advice). Once you’re taking medications to stimulate your ovaries, you’ll need regular blood tests to measure the levels of hormones in the body. Because every woman responds to IVF medications differently, hormones must be adjusted day-to-day to ensure enough follicles are stimulated. And to reduce the risk of ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome. Your physician will likely require an ultrasound to monitor the growth of follicles within the ovaries. Perhaps not surprisingly, given of the demands of the process, stress and mood swings are common during ovarian stimulation. Mood swings can be a combination of hormonal changes in your body, and the stress of IVF treatment itself. It’s often hard to separate the two.
I hope this message finds you healthy, hun. Be strong and keep posting Xx
Paggie, honey, hey! How are you doing, today? I hope you're okay. I'm sorry to hear about your losses. It's a tough situation to be in. My advice to you would be to make a decision and make it fast. Age is catching up with you. It makes no sense to wait so much. You should consider assisted conception, seriously! I'd suggest visiting a fertility clinic, soon. There's a very good chance that it works out. No point in wasting more time. Good luck to you. I hope it works for you. Lots of love and baby dust your way. Keep us posted on how it goes!
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