I don't like to listen to people's advice unless they have been through infertility issues and understand what I'm going through. So if I were you I would have probably been (inside at least) a little ticked off if my friends said I should stop going to fertility sites, temping, etc. Those people more than likely did not go through months, and months, turning into years, to get pregnant. They just don't understand what we go through.
However, I do believe that sometimes I need a break from the fertility stuff. I can get so consumed with it. I don't think that's healthy. You know how our hormones go crazy from the fertility drugs we take. Well, some days, especially during AF, I am just so sad. And when I look at fertility websites, it just makes it worse. You know? There is such a huge range of emotions we TTCers go through. And there are so few people who actually understand how it feels. Just listen to yourself, your body, your feels. If you think your googling turns into obsession, try to spend less time in the internet.
This pains so much to see there are so many who've been suffering through yrs..I know how it feels seeing pregos around and knowing you're not likely to be the next on the list..I've always been in the straigned relationship with my cousin's wife. I'll explain. I even deactivated the social media. But I just had the feeling that because she was so young and he was such an idiot there was going to be all this resentment about me not fawning over her. Even though I was really just protecting my own heart and preserving her happiness for herself. She was one of those "other girls hate me" types with lots of constant meme posting about how people betray her etc. In other words, she was 23. If they couldn't figure out that maybe it wouldn't be a good idea to send us a fanfare filled driveby pregnancy text then I was not sure they had the maturity to understand distancing oneself due to pain.. I wish I could be excited or happy but I wasn't. Maybe it was because their children weren't related to me. Or maybe because I was not super close to them. Or I was personally experiencing with miscarriage then..Or the feelings of negativity I already had about that time of year.. Some living reminders of the child that I lost.. How could I ever expected to get over that and be happy for someone else?..