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Tarabb677 wrote:
I don't like to listen to people's advice unless they have been through infertility issues and understand what I'm going through. So if I were you I would have probably been (inside at least) a little ticked off if my friends said I should stop going to fertility sites, temping, etc. Those people more than likely did not go through months, and months, turning into years, to get pregnant. They just don't understand what we go through.

However, I do believe that sometimes I need a break from the fertility stuff. I can get so consumed with it. I don't think that's healthy. You know how our hormones go crazy from the fertility drugs we take. Well, some days, especially during AF, I am just so sad. And when I look at fertility websites, it just makes it worse. You know? There is such a huge range of emotions we TTCers go through. And there are so few people who actually understand how it feels. Just listen to yourself, your body, your feels. If you think your googling turns into obsession, try to spend less time in the internet.

This pains so much to see there are so many who've been suffering through yrs..I know how it feels seeing pregos around and knowing you're not likely to be the next on the list..I've always been in the straigned relationship with my cousin's wife. I'll explain. I even deactivated the social media. But I just had the feeling that because she was so young and he was such an idiot there was going to be all this resentment about me not fawning over her. Even though I was really just protecting my own heart and preserving her happiness for herself. She was one of those "other girls hate me" types with lots of constant meme posting about how people betray her etc. In other words, she was 23. If they couldn't figure out that maybe it wouldn't be a good idea to send us a fanfare filled driveby pregnancy text then I was not sure they had the maturity to understand distancing oneself due to pain.. I wish I could be excited or happy but I wasn't. Maybe it was because their children weren't related to me. Or maybe because I was not super close to them. Or I was personally experiencing with miscarriage then..Or the feelings of negativity I already had about that time of year.. Some living reminders of the child that I lost.. How could I ever expected to get over that and be happy for someone else?..
Hey, I can totally understand your situation. I think your DH shouldn't have done that. However, I am sure it must have been unintentionally done. Maybe you should talk about it with him directly. Be more open towards one another. In situations and journey's like these problems do occur. Lastly, I would want to say that if you have been trying for a year. Maybe its time to visit the doctor. He/she will really be able to help in determining if the problem is with you stressing or its something else. I believe you shouldn't delay it any longer. Visit a good clinic for this purpose. The more professional the better it is. Sending good vibes. Don't be upset I am sure things will get better. Sending baby dust your way.
Andie.Berg wrote:
Hey, I can totally understand your situation. I think your DH shouldn't have done that. However, I am sure it must have been unintentionally done. Maybe you should talk about it with him directly. Be more open towards one another. In situations and journey's like these problems do occur. Lastly, I would want to say that if you have been trying for a year. Maybe its time to visit the doctor. He/she will really be able to help in determining if the problem is with you stressing or its something else. I believe you shouldn't delay it any longer. Visit a good clinic for this purpose. The more professional the better it is. Sending good vibes. Don't be upset I am sure things will get better. Sending baby dust your way.

Here are the questions to ask your fertility expert.
1. If my infertility diagnosis is not clear, what tests will we run to narrow down the possible causes? Before anything else can happen, you and your specialist need to have a good understanding the possible root causes of your infertility. In many cases, there’s more than one factor going on. Diagnostic tests are a valuable tool which can shed light on both female and male factor.
2. If we know what’s causing my infertility, is this condition likely to get worse over time, stay the same or maybe improve? The reason behind your infertility can help you and your doctor decide on a time frame for treatment.
3. Which treatment do you recommend we try first? Why?
Depending on your specific circumstances, your doctor may suggest beginning with less invasive and costly forms of fertility treatments such as IUI before moving on to ART such as IVF. Or, they may recommend that you skip straight to an IVF cycle. This decision should be made on an individual basis.
4. What are your success rates with this treatment for patients like me?
5. Are there side effects or risks to this treatment I should be prepared for?
It can help you plan your work and treatment schedule so that you have time to take good care of yourself if you’re finding things difficult.
6. How many rounds of this treatment should we try before moving?
7. If this treatment is unsuccessful, what else can we try next? Having “somewhere to go” if things don’t work out the first time can be sanity-saving when you’re in a dark place.
8. Is there anything I can do to improve my chances of success before, during, and after treatment?
9. How much will each cycle of treatment cost and what’s included? Finally, paying for the treatment you need may be a lot more accessible than you think!!
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lidya wrote:
Hi there, Your DH is right. These days there is too much information regarding infertility on the internet, it can make you scared. Instead of looking on the internet, you should visit a proper doctor. He will guide you through your situation. And yes stress is an important factor that can lead to a long period of trying to conceive. so, stay stress-free, do yoga and stay calm.

Hi, just a couple of things to share. I truly think this is a helpful board. I also think that the women on here can understand exactly how you feel about certain things even if your dh can't relate too much (happens quite often, unfortunately). I would also agree with the majority that we want to know all about everything!! Maybe we learn something we didn't know before that will help us... If nothing else it's nice just to know you’re not alone! I have to say that sometimes I do spend way too much time on boards and research!! It really drives me crazy. 'Cause it becomes an obsession..Time ago it made it more stressful to me wondering if I was doing everything I possibly could to make that work. Even now being on the other side of the fence I do continue browsing..and trying to support more and more people in this 'cause I know how it feels and what a huge impact it has on our normal ordinary lives..But, at the same time, I do see the value in taking a break every few days from all TTC boards and research. That doesn't mean you have to stop all together! Just not let it become your life!! I just didn't want to be defined as a woman trying to get pregnant. That was just a detail about my life..I'm with you it's better to seek help immediately from the experts, and I'm glad our research path led us to biotex com where we finally got luck. Special thanks always..Just want to say we always need some time to process things well in our heads before turning to actual treatments.
Hi girl. Hope you are doing well. I'm sorry, you felt this way. I know it gets really frustrating. People forget minding their own business. They don't really care you know. They ask things out of curiosity. The best you can do here is put on a fake smile on your face and tell as minimal as possible. I try to keep it this way. TTC is hard enough. We don't need any more negativity from people around us. I hope you conceive soon. Have you considered assisted conception for yourself? You should, in my opinion. I hope your problems get solved soon!
Hello. I'm so sorry to hear about that. But I'm glad you let it out here. I hope you feel better. I understand times are tough right now. But you have to be strong. I hope everything works out for you. Sending prayers your way.
I know exactly what you're going through. It must have been awful. You've done the correct thing, though. Joining these forums is really helpful. I'm sure you'll find a lot of help. All one needs at such times is a person who we can relate to. Good luck to you. I genuinely hope this has a happy ending.
Hey. I hope you're alright. I know exactly what you're going through. It must have been awful. You've done the correct thing. Joining these forums is really helpful. I'm sure you'll find a lot of help. All one needs at such times is a person who we can relate to. It works like a charm, to be honest! Good luck to you. I hope things get better instantly for you. I hope you put this experience behind you. I genuinely hope your story has a happy ending. You deserve it! Sending lots of baby dust your way.
Our stories vary dramatically, but we all know what we're fighting for, right?
The very first thing I wanna say is that passing de ivf abroad is definitely cheaper! We've got the long history and our fertility journey was not the shortest one. We experienced IUI and ICSI rounds home - got nothing but failures and broken hearts. I'm pretty ripe age and have not so much time left. The decision of moving onto egg donation wasn't smooth and fast as well. The idea of using another woman's eggs was weird at the beginning of our new route. And all those conversations about biological relation of the baby were torturing me. Furthermore I faced all that with our so to say family's proven fertility! (All the women in my family were/are fertile except ME!) But talking to more people in the similar position and investigation on the net really helped us much. This way we found eviternity.org specializing on egg donation and surrogacy. We had our free consultation with the patient coordinator Josephine in London. She was going through the same thing that time so we were absolutely understood and supported. In a couple of weeks we went to Ukraine and signed contract with the clinic. It was the program of 5 shots for 9900 euro. All meds for the protocol included into the package price. Also selective reduction; housing, transportation and other minor issues. The most attractive about the program was that in case of 5 failures they refund all money paid.
With our previous history of failures we thought that guarantee was great luck cause were so much tired of paying extra and almost out of the pocket.
Fresh gave us more chance to try simply because you get more eggs. At the clinic they fortunately had plenty of donors for us to choose from. We selected a donor that is cute, tall, very athletic, had higher scores than me, dog lover like we are and many other things we liked about her. She is 25 years old.
Over all my ICSI and IUI I never got more than 3 eggs and never past day 3-4. I always say it's a big difference from being 38 and 25 when it comes to fertility!
This process gave us hope and a possibility at having a pregnancy and a child. So if this is the way for you first try to make peace in your head, then take action.
Wish you all luck in the world with your decision and further treatment.
lidya wrote:
Hi there, Your DH is right. These days there is too much information regarding infertility on the internet, it can make you scared. Instead of looking on the internet, you should visit a proper doctor. He will guide you through your situation. And yes stress is an important factor that can lead to a long period of trying to conceive. so, stay stress-free, do yoga and stay calm.


I agree 100 per cent. This is incredibly important to consult a specialist! it is your health after all. you can get so many different advice on the internet. and it wouldn't help at all. because we are no professionals, we can't diagnose ourselves. especially based on wikipedia articles
Of course we can't! Talking to others in the same boat can only help us to grasp the main idea, but just like you've said - we are all different! We all probably know that there may be a lot of factors contributing to fertility issues. I myself knew it's important to make sure both the tubes are not blocked. But I didn't expected it was SO important unless our sweet dr at bio tex com clinic explained us in details. The fallopian tube is the passageway for the egg to enter the uterus. During ovulation, the egg is released from the ovary and picked up by the fimbriae, which look like fingers at the end of the fallopian tube. The egg then starts its 3-day journey to the uterus. It stays in the end of the tube for the first day, where it can be fertilized if it meets sperm that traveled up through the cervix, through the uterus, and out into the fallopian tube. The fertilized embryo begins dividing and travels in the fallopian tube to enter the uterus, where it will stay for another 3 days or so before implanting. The test to determine whether your fallopian tubes are open is HSG. This test places dye through the cervix, into the uterus, and out through the tubes. An x-ray is used to see whether the dye was able to travel out through the tubes, showing that they are open. If both fallopian tubes are damaged or blocked, the egg and sperm cannot find each other. Blocked fallopian tubes prevent natural conception, but IVF can bypass the tubes. During IVF, the ovaries are stimulated to produce several eggs. The eggs are then retrieved using a short procedure under anesthesia. They are then fertilized in the laboratory. Created embryos are placed into the uterus through the cervix. so the fallopian tubes are bypassed all together. Which is definitely good news, right? And this is just ONE issue of MANY possible ones.
Applying for the expert's help is vital, I agree with you, for no wasting fertility time and working on actual outcomes.
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