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Hi guys. So the decision is final. We will be starting our surrogacy program soon. We have set a date with our clinic for the initial consultation. We need lots of prayers. If any of you has been through this and has some advice or tips, I would really appreciate it. Thanks!
I hope things go well. The waiting line initially can be long. Therefore, your turn might come a little late. It really depends! However, it is really good that the clinic has provided you a date. They are very punctual in that matter. Apart from this for surrogacy number one tip is that you will have to be patient. The process is very long and things will happen one at a time. I am in the middle of the process and I know how long it takes. However, my surrogate got pregnant and that just gave me soo much motivation. Make sure to be on good terms with the surrogate. I am already very close friends with her and respect her. Apart, from that be positive. I learned so much from this experience and there is so much more to learn. Good luck to you.
HI! Thank you so much for this comment. It's so helpful. I really appreciate all the advice you gave. Its good to know that you have gotten so far in your journey. We can be surrogacy buddies. It's so exciting. There's one thing I wanted to ask you though. How much time did they take in order to find you your surrogate?
Hi, lovelies. I'm on the other side of the fence and mine was the case of donor egg IVF. Still we've always counted on surrogacy as our last option is case there's no luck with any other treatment. So we did a huge research on the point while undergoing IVF shot at Ukrainian clinic. From what we've got to know, it's absolutely surrogacy friendly country. Meaning the IP are considered to be the only legal parents of the baby born. The birth certificate is issued with their names. (even though donor egg was used). The surrogate has no right to keep the baby after deliver (even though she changes her mind - you WILL GET your baby in every case). Ukrainian law protects all the sides of the process, so there could be hardly a thing to worry about. If you're from the UK, I'd definitely recommend you looking through oursurrogacyblog.wordpress.com which is absolutely awesome for the details of surrogacy treatment for the UK citizens in particular. In brief, surrogacy process in Ukraine goes on like this:
Initial consultation. It usually contains the following activities: A set of tests depending on the program (fasting is mandatory). Consultation with a fertility specialist who will be in charge of your program (in case of stimulation you will need to have the transvaginal ultrasound check done). Consultation with a manager who will guide you through the program step by step. Signing of contracts. Before any initial consultation you will receive the Guidelines for the Initial Consultation – failure to follow these recommendations may affect the initial consultation in a negative way. Search & confirmation of a surrogate mother, matching process. Waiting time depends on the type of contact. Stimulation & synchronisation stage (about 2 weeks). The cycle of egg donor or the biological mother is synchronised with the cycle of a surrogate mother. According to your contract you have to follow all doctors instruction. In case of self-treatment or violation of the treatment protocol, the clinic may cancel the cycle and terminate the contract. Fertilization day, embryo transfer – the 2nd visit. In case the biological mother undergoes hormonal stimulation and is being prepared for egg retrieval, the second visit may take up to 10 days. If we are talking about surrogacy using own eggs it is not recommended to leave the same day. Flying the following day is fine.The rules for sperm donation are similar as for the initial consultation – a man needs to abstain from ejaculation from 3 to 5 days before. After fertilisation the embryo development is monitored by embryology unit. The embryo transfer takes place on the 5th day. You will receive the protocol of embryo cultivation and transfer within 3 working days after the embryo transfer. HCG test, pregnancy confirmation. The first ultrasound scan is carried out in 2 weeks after the positive HCG test by the doctor in charge of the program. The report will be send the same or the next day after the check.
Pregnancy monitoring. Delivery. Obtaining of the birth certificate for the baby (up to 1 week).
This is some general outline of the process, all cases are different though. I hope it's helps. May your surrogacy journey be smooth and fast, so that you could hold your LO soon. Good luck!!
Cathymccartney098 wrote:
Hi guys. So the decision is final. We will be starting our surrogacy program soon. We have set a date with our clinic for the initial consultation. We need lots of prayers. If any of you has been through this and has some advice or tips, I would really appreciate it. Thanks!

Thought this might be useful for your initial consultation. Questions to ask your clinic:
How long has the program been in operation?
Does the program recruit its own surrogates and through what means?
Will they work with a surrogate recruited by the couple themselves?
How are surrogates expenses handled? Is there a cap on these expenses?
Does the program offer medical screening of the surrogate? To what extent? Who does the screening?
Does medical screening include an AIDS test of surrogate and her partner?
What is the fee payment structure?
What are the financial obligations incurred by the couple?
How long are the surrogate’s medical records kept?
Does the program offer psychological screening and counseling to all parties? To what extent?
Does the program offer own medical services or do they work with local physicians and hospitals?
How many babies have been born through the clinic’s surrogacy programs?
To what extent is contact between the surrogate and the couple encouraged?
Can the couple be present at the birth?
What type of legal counsel is offered to the surrogate and the couple? Does this include the drawing up of contracts?
What are the fees for informational meetings or interviews?
If the surrogate does not get pregnant over a certain number of cycles, what is the clinic's policy regarding refund of fees paid?
In the event that the contract is not honored, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
In the event that the surrogate has a pregnancy loss, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
Does the program have a registry for the surrogate and children to exchange information when the child reaches maturity?
Hope, this doesn't sound patronizing, just tried to be helpful.
Hi, there! You must be buzzing! Good luck to you on this journey. I haven't been through this experience, however, I did undergo the IUI procedure. Not sure if I can be of much help, haha. Either way, lots of baby dust for you. Just remember that these things can take a bit of time. I hope it happens quickly, but be prepared. Hopefully, the surrogate that you get is really nice. I'd love it if you could keep us updated. I've been reading about some success stories. They really make my day. I'd suggest you do that, too! It gives you so much hope. Plus, the positivity that it brings, it's something one can definitely do with.
Hey Cathy! I hope you are doing good. I am so happy for you. That is such a good news, Congratulations. Your dream of becoming a mother is not that far away now. The clinic you chose for yourself is where I am having my treatment right now. I am so excited we can be surrogacy buddies. My surrogate is pregnant for a while now and I m this close to my dream. It just feels like that I found a new reason to live again. I just can't wait to hold my baby in my hands. The one question you asked Monika that how much time it takes to find a surrogate, Almost 1 week. I don't know for sure but yes at my time it took them 1 week. But don't worry even if it takes longer then usual be patient because they will find the right surrogate for you. In this journey, it's important that you don't rush things and stay calm. I hope everything goes well for you. Stay Blessed!
Good luck to you! I hope the process works for you. This must be very exciting and nerve-wracking for you. For this process, in particular, I have heard that it is very important to properly search about the country you are going to be visiting. This is because it is still considered to be illegal in a lot of countries. Apart from this make sure you properly research about the clinic. For the process, this matters a lot. The more experienced the doctor the better it will be. A lot of my friends have opted for the same process. They all are visiting a clinic abroad. I myself have got in touch with the clinic, however, for a different process. I read such good reviews about it that I was actually quite adamant to start my process with them. Good luck to you. If you need answers to any specific answers do let me know. Sending baby dust your way.
Hi Cathy! I hope things go well for you. I m glad that you are taking your first step towards surrogacy. My sister had her baby through surrogacy so I can tell you that the treatment is successful. My sister also had her surrogacy at the same clinic you are opting for. So you are opting for a clinic with high success rate, looks like you have done your research. This clinic's success is all over the forums now. I have recently started my IVF at this clinic so I hope to see you there someday. Don't worry you are in good hands. You just have to stay patient. Things will happen for you when the time is right. Good Luck. Stay blessed. Sending baby dust your way.
Cathymccartney098 wrote:
Hi guys. So the decision is final. We will be starting our surrogacy program soon. We have set a date with our clinic for the initial consultation. We need lots of prayers. If any of you has been through this and has some advice or tips, I would really appreciate it. Thanks!

If you're using OE for the surrogacy plan, here are some tips after ER: 
Make sure you don't exercise for at least two weeks after retrieval. Your ovaries are still quite large and extended. So make sure you take it easy for the next few weeks. (Not to get them twisted which can be extremelly dangerous.) Try to take it easy. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated. I was told no high impact activity. I only walked more to help keep the bloating and gas moving. Usually miralax or metamucil is recommended right away after retrieval. You can eat pretty much what you enjoy. But no food after midnight before retrieval. And do drink a ton of water and have Gatorade at hand. I got the G2, lower in calorie and sodium. But you need this to stay hydrated and to try and avoid ohhs as much as possible. Also, the retrieval if rather a simple & short procedure, you may have a tiny bit of cramps for a day but that's a bout it. So don't stress about anything. Hope these will help. All my positive thoughts going your way. xx
C_Lains wrote:
Cathymccartney098 wrote:
Hi guys. So the decision is final. We will be starting our surrogacy program soon. We have set a date with our clinic for the initial consultation. We need lots of prayers. If any of you has been through this and has some advice or tips, I would really appreciate it. Thanks!
Thought this might be useful for your initial consultation. Questions to ask your clinic:
How long has the program been in operation?
Does the program recruit its own surrogates and through what means?
Will they work with a surrogate recruited by the couple themselves?
How are surrogates expenses handled? Is there a cap on these expenses?
Does the program offer medical screening of the surrogate? To what extent? Who does the screening?
Does medical screening include an AIDS test of surrogate and her partner?
What is the fee payment structure?
What are the financial obligations incurred by the couple?
How long are the surrogate’s medical records kept?
Does the program offer psychological screening and counseling to all parties? To what extent?
Does the program offer own medical services or do they work with local physicians and hospitals?
How many babies have been born through the clinic’s surrogacy programs?
To what extent is contact between the surrogate and the couple encouraged?
Can the couple be present at the birth?
What type of legal counsel is offered to the surrogate and the couple? Does this include the drawing up of contracts?
What are the fees for informational meetings or interviews?
If the surrogate does not get pregnant over a certain number of cycles, what is the clinic's policy regarding refund of fees paid?
In the event that the contract is not honored, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
In the event that the surrogate has a pregnancy loss, what are the financial obligations for the couple?
Does the program have a registry for the surrogate and children to exchange information when the child reaches maturity?
Hope, this doesn't sound patronizing, just tried to be helpful.

You have indeed a lot of information on this topic. I believe doing research is an essential part of the process. When I was first dignosed with a problem I honestly didn't do a lot of research. It was like I didn't know what to do next. It was way later when a friend told me how important it was to not only research about the disorder but also to research about the clinic. I am glad I took her advice. It is because of that I made good decisions. Good luck to you.
@Cathymccartney,
Here's yet a couple of things on what you should expect if you're using your own eggs during IVF/ surrogacy. At the start of a cycle you'll begin treatment with hormones to stimulate your ovaries to produce multiple eggs. Multiple eggs are needed because some eggs won't fertilize or develop normally after fertilization. You may also need several different medications, such as:
Medications for ovarian stimulation. You might receive an injectable medication containing a follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH), a luteinizing hormone (LH) or a combination of both. These medications stimulate more than one egg to develop at a time.
Medications for oocyte maturation. When the follicles are ready for egg retrieval - generally after 8 to 14 days - you will take HCG or other medications to help the eggs mature.
Medications to prevent premature ovulation. These ones prevent your body from releasing the developing eggs too soon.
Your doctor will work with you to determine which medications to use and when to use them.
Typically, you'll need one to two weeks of ovarian stimulation before your eggs are ready for retrieval.
Do keep us posted.
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