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Dear the feeling is awful but you just have to deal with it. Your reaction is natural and I can tell that virtually everyone would feel the same way. You just to discipline the mind to be happy in such situations and be hopeful that yours will work out fine pretty soon.
Sadly enough, our ovaries do not care if you are a vegan, gluten-free marathoner. Each woman is born with a finite number of eggs. With age, both the number and quality of these eggs decreases. Obesity, high blood pressure, and diabetes can further impede your ability to get pregnant. These issues can increase the risk of miscarriage. They can cause complications during the pregnancy itself. Staying healthy is important to maximize your chances of conceiving and help you have a healthier pregnancy. But diet and exercise alone cannot fully overcome the effects of aging on the ovary. You may be wondering if these numbers are all doom and gloom. Why does it seem like there are so many fabulous forty-somethings with babies at the playground? While a ten percent chance per year of conceiving seems low, there is a significant portion of the population in their forties. So there are still a lot of women getting pregnant and having normal healthy pregnancies in their forties. Another consideration is that a majority of women undergoing fertility treatments over the age of 40 use eggs from egg donors. All the fertility and complication rates are tied to the age of the eggs. So if younger eggs were used then odds of healthy pregnancy go up significantly. This is performed through IVF. which can be an expensive and exhausting process..Even if it's the time you face difficulties, please do remember. - Next day you get up. You pull all your strength. You put your brave face on - and GO ON! Blessings.
I can understand how you might be feeling. This feeling is really hard to go through. I have had several such incidents. People who are not going through this situation cant really feel the pain. For them, conceiving is something very easy to do. Therefore, there are people who often times say stuff without realizing how painful that could have been for others. This is one of the reasons why I keep myself away from negativity. I used to be a very social person! however, now I dont really go out. It is better to be inside and be happy. Rather than being askwd 100 questions. I hope things get better for you. Visit a good doctor and give IVF another try. It is an amazing procedure! However, expertise is required.
I am totally fine with other people having kids. I have been there where I was too jealous and could not bear a single thought about them. But I am in a better place right now. And I wish all of you to reach the same.
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You spoke my mind! I have felt this way quite a bit. Yeah, when nothing seems to be working out for you, it's quite normal to feel this way. I've been TTC for three years. It can be really hard to stay focused. Especially, when it's working out so easily for others! I hope things get better for you.
Natashaa23 wrote:
You spoke my mind! I have felt this way quite a bit. Yeah, when nothing seems to be working out for you, it's quite normal to feel this way. I've been TTC for three years. It can be really hard to stay focused. Especially, when it's working out so easily for others! I hope things get better for you.

The fact that you’re on here says a lot about how dedicated you are to the process. Seems I've seen some of your posts on other boards too. sorry to hear about your loss. Hugs for you! No matter what amount of conforting words I use your grief wont let you at peace anytime soon. Being a mother is more than just physiological. The emotional string is way to heavy to be torn down with the MC and the outbrust of insanity thereafter is overwhelming. But we're women we don't have a choice than to be strong and come out strong from any situation. It's much needed that you're hearty and healthy both to take on the round 2. I can tell you that "time heals it all" or just teaches us to get accoustomed to living with it... eventually the severe heartbreak will be all gone for good. You're on medication to heal your body but please take counselling and vent out to heal emotionally as well. Wish you all the luck in the world!
I can feel your plight. I actually cried when I read your comment. I was childless too time ago. (Through different circumstances comparing to yours.) Sounds you’d like to have more people around who have been through similar. I was always waiting for someone from my local support group to get in touch. I think you should do the same. Have you contacted support pages?
Not sure if I can be of any help to you but I do know issues can take a lot out of you. Your hormones are all over the place and definitely won’t be helping with how you’re feeling. I was at my most depressed when I was alone…Never let this yourself. Despite what you think just now going back to work may be the best thing you can do to keep you busy. You also need time to recover and then heal emotionally and mentally. It’ll all take time but you definitely need support. I’m here if you want some steam off. Stay strong!!
Also have recently found this nice post on netmums on how to survive an keep on moving: "Getting to know about infertility can affect your self-confidence. There are many couples who are trying for months but the results are coming negative. No doubt, infertility affects the patient both physically and mentally. The problem increases when you are not able to come out of that situation. It is important that you follow certain things to stay positive and happy during male infertility and female infertility.
Anyone who is going through the phase of infertility will be upset. Months or years of trying to conceive but the results are not coming successful can be quite frustrating and also depressing. Give yourself some time to feel those emotions as it is very important. Don’t pretend that everything is okay because after some months you might end up with a severe emotional breakdown. So, grief for a while so that you can pull yourself out of that negative place.
It is essential that you keep yourself busy in things which you love to do. Avoid negative things and be kind to yourself. This way you can divert your mind and you will not keep track of other things which are affecting you. You will surely feel more positive and energized every day.
In a difficult situation, family and friends are the ones who always support and guide you. Talk with and share your feelings, so that they know what is going in your mind related to infertility treatment.
Sometimes sharing thoughts and feeling with the person who is going through the exact situation will help you even more. It will tell you that you are not alone and you can learn from other’s experience. Moreover, you can share your own story with them and this way you can help others also. You can also join a group online as there are many online forums of this community to provide support to people.
You should not hesitate about taking help from others. Instead, share your thoughts and spend time with everyone. Being alone can build negative thoughts which are not the right way to handle this situation.
Getting stuck to the situations for a long time might turn extremely difficult and uncomfortable. You should discuss with the therapist or doctor about the fertility journey and how to move forward. This way you will know what to do and you will feel confident. Moreover, it improves the chances of getting pregnant each month. don’t lose your focus and give time to yourself. Some people are not comfortable sharing things, in that case, you can write your thoughts. This way you feel confident and the sadness does not stay with you for a long time. This exercise can help you to process and think about what you have to further and you can control the emotions which you are feeling at that time."
I think I agree with all these lovely women. They're absolutely correct in this regard. It's okay to feel that way, honey. You'll feel a lot better once it happens for you. Which I hope, happens really soon! Best of luck to you. Keep trying, you can get through it.
Mila, don't be too hard on yourself. It's fine to feel this way. I can relate so much to it! I have gone through this, exactly. It's just really hard because you feel bad. If you feel guilty about it, then it gets super tough. You can't really talk to anyone who won't understand. Only women in our situations can understand. I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's perfectly normal, though. If it's any consolation, I used to be quite jealous! I hope your luck turns around. Here's to hoping you get a BFP really soon. My prayers are with you. Sending you lots and lots of baby dust!
Hey, honey. It's perfectly okay to feel this way. I think considering we're all humans, it shouldn't be big. We are all capable of making such mistakes. So, I think you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. The fact that you feel a little guilty for feeling that way, it makes it fine. Yeah, you probably shouldn't say it out loud. It's hard to be certain that they will understand. However, sharing it on a forum is fine. People can understand here. They've all felt that way, so it's all good. Best of luck to you, too! You can get through this time. Hopefully, your luck changes around. Keep us posted on your journey. x
I am so sorry you had to go through that. I can understand how hard that must have been for you. Stay strong and positive. Just know that life can at times be harsh but you have to stay strong. Good luck to you. Visit a good doctor! That changed things for me. Sending baby dust your way.
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