Just need to vent some frustration if that's ok with everyone! My partner and I run our own business and are expecting our first baby in 7 weeks. The other week he came back from a job and was telling me about his conversation with the guy there. He said his wife came back to work (their own business) the day she came out of hospital and didn't stay home at all. This was about 16years ago. He said it's the best way to do it!!!!! Now my partner believes that's what I should do. I'm already feeling anxious enough about being a first-time mum without having him expect me to be a mum and work full-time as well. Granted, I can bring bubby to work with me, but I don't think it's the right environment for a new bub not to mention the breast feeding side of things. I guess I know there are a few people who would love that opprotunity. Last night, I burst into tears because he said we should get some nappy rash cream. When I said I've already bought vaseline he said NO!, not sticky stuff. He said he thought we should make these decisions together, but up till last night he never wanted to help me pick out the cot or anything else whatsoever. He just said, you can do it. As my partner is someone who always wants things done his way, I'm worried that I won't be able to have any say in our child's upbringing. He cut his family off last year because he thinks they were bad parents and doesn't want anything to do with them. Now, he never speaks to my mum (or acknowledges her existance) who lives with us, over a stupid incident. I guess I feel like I'm going to miss out of a lot of family stuff and we never have friends over or anything becuase he doesn't have any and hates people generally, and I only have a handful of friends who I see only occassionally. Please tell me I'm over-reacting!!! I'm so scared I'm going to have a sad life but I just want to be the best mum I can be. I don't want my baby growing up with a said pathetic mum.
Thanks for listening.
Lisa, Qld, Mum to be