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Feeling entirely undesirable and unsexy. Lock Rss

Hi there

I'm 26 weeks pregnant. I'm feeling completely unsexy and undesirable. My sex drive is high and my partners is low. We have always been mismatched unfortunately. So while i am preggers I am so much more self conscious that I am unattractive to him. The only sex we have is when I end up getting upset with him. I'm totally in love with him and want him all the time and I feel like he doesn't want me at all. I am so upset and frustrated about this. I feel like crying all the time. Does anyone else feel like this? sad
Honey, you are NOT alone in this feeling!!! I remember feeling the exact same way when I was pregnant with DS. My DH was not interested in sex AT ALL and I felt so yuk as like you I have a high sex drive.

I felt like all he saw when he looked at me was this massive tummy, instead of his wife. I guess nothing really changed, except my attitude. I realised that I was carrying our child and that giving up regular sex for our baby was something that I had to do. It wasn't easy, as I'm sure you're realising, but within a month of DS's birth we were back to having sex as usual. My DH said he was so worried about hurting the baby that he just couldn't relax and enjoy sex. He said he couldn't have sex if he wasn't enjoying it. I wish that he'd told me that during the pregnancy.

I'm 20 weeks with our second and we are having sex more with this pregnancy as I think he realises that sex can't hurt the baby (given the all clear by the DR of course). but that's something we had to go through for him to realise.

So, I guess what I'm saying is that there are no quick solutions (sorry) but to hang in there and realise that things will return to normal once baby is born and there is some routine you can follow. But be assured it's not that you are unattractive or unsexy. It's more than likely in his head, not his eyes wink

Hope you're feeling better soon. PS - discuss this with him, maybe knowing he's not the only guy to "go off sex" will help.
I feel exactly the same, like all my bf sees is my giant tummy,plus ive put on a bit of weight and feel so selfconscious,i feel like we're drifting apart without the phyiscal side of things sad we have talked about it,he says hes to tired and thinks im beautiful anyway, i always get 'your not fat,your pregnant!' well if thats true,wheres the action!!
While pregnant, I've been the only one to initiate anything intimate, my husband has turned cold. Then I found out he's been watching porn for 8 months and that's why I havent been needed. Men suck!

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I feel exactly the same, like all my bf sees is my giant tummy,plus ive put on a bit of weight and feel so selfconscious,i feel like we're drifting apart without the phyiscal side of things sad we have talked about it,he says hes to tired and thinks im beautiful anyway, i always get 'your not fat,your pregnant!' well if thats true,wheres the action!!



same same... cept the pregnancy bit.

I just got a gym membership, time to get motivated and bring back my skinny, confident self!



I'm 26 weeks pregnant now and I'm in the same situation. It's my third pregnancy and with my first hubbies sex drive was higher than mine and with the second and the third mine was and is higher than his. But I found that oral sex is something we enjoy a lot. So we still sort of have some sort of intimacy going on. My belly gets really big quickly and that makes it a bit harder to do stuff. So I would give him a BJ and then he would please me. And ladies remember that intimacy can be found in different ways. Even if you two just stimulate each other in some way or form. Men don't always look at everything you do. They look at us as a silhouette and not the individual parts. Pregnancy is a great time to try new sorts of oral sex and different ways of intimacy. Even if it is just being naked and playing sex board games or just you giving him a hand job and him returning the favour. Well thats my two cents worth.
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