Yeah DH is a bit like that, ours was planned, and he comes to all the scans and Dr appointments but he said to me that he wanted to find out the sex so he could have a better image in his mind about what was to come, help him bond and all that.
Totally agree with the quote that woman becomes a mother when she gets pregnant, but a man becomes a father once its born. So true, I guess it is really hard for them to believe its happening, as it is even sort of hard for me to believe even though I am growing, seeing bub in the scans and have been feeling kicks and jabs etc. Also doesn't help that when she is kicking if he puts his hand on my belly, she stops so has only felt it a couple of times.
Skubala in all honesty I think DH was also a bit disappointed when we found it we were having a girl, even though he said that he didn't care as long as she was healthy and definitely did sound sincere. He was just always referring to bub as a he and talking about what he and his son would do together, sorta glad we found out at 20 weeks it was a girl so he didn't have that in his head the whole time. I know that sounds terrible and am soooo grateful that we have a healthy bub but yeah couldn't get that thought out of my head about how much DH wanted a son.
And my DH doesn't have to ask questions about the pregnancy, it's all I pretty much talk about now lol so he cant help but hear about it.
Sounds like our guys are pretty normal and I'm sure he and your DH will come around a bit more when they grow bigger and once they are born, good luck.