Hello all,
I have a rather tricky situation that I have to deal with shortly and I'm not sure what to do because last time didn't go smoothly at all.
When I became pregnant with my daughter in 2013 my older sister had just found out that she had to have one of her ovaries removed, so we had to keep the announcement of our pregnancy really low-key and pretend that it was no big deal. This was hard because it was our first pregnancy and we were understandably really excited, but we couldn't show it around my sister.
My family kept telling us not to be too excited around my sister and 'rub it in' so my husband and I were left feeling quite deflated as it felt we had done something wrong by having a baby. I found out later that my sister had cried for weeks and ended up having to see someone about depression, which was really horrible because we have always been close and she won't talk to me about it.
ANYWAY... my husband and I have just found out that we are expecting our second child in November and will shortly be far enough along to tell people. However my sister has just found out that she now has to have her remaining ovary taken out so we are in the same boat again.
What should I do? I'm really upset for my sister who now can't have children of her own, but at the same time I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy and our new baby with my family as I felt last time that I had to avoid my family so that my pregnancy didn't upset my sister.
How do you think I should break the news (listen to me! The way it sounds like I've got some terrible secret) should I leave it up to my Mum to tell the family or should I do what we did last time where we told everyone together.
I really need some advice, encouragement, insight ANYTHING!
I have a rather tricky situation that I have to deal with shortly and I'm not sure what to do because last time didn't go smoothly at all.
When I became pregnant with my daughter in 2013 my older sister had just found out that she had to have one of her ovaries removed, so we had to keep the announcement of our pregnancy really low-key and pretend that it was no big deal. This was hard because it was our first pregnancy and we were understandably really excited, but we couldn't show it around my sister.
My family kept telling us not to be too excited around my sister and 'rub it in' so my husband and I were left feeling quite deflated as it felt we had done something wrong by having a baby. I found out later that my sister had cried for weeks and ended up having to see someone about depression, which was really horrible because we have always been close and she won't talk to me about it.
ANYWAY... my husband and I have just found out that we are expecting our second child in November and will shortly be far enough along to tell people. However my sister has just found out that she now has to have her remaining ovary taken out so we are in the same boat again.
What should I do? I'm really upset for my sister who now can't have children of her own, but at the same time I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy and our new baby with my family as I felt last time that I had to avoid my family so that my pregnancy didn't upset my sister.
How do you think I should break the news (listen to me! The way it sounds like I've got some terrible secret) should I leave it up to my Mum to tell the family or should I do what we did last time where we told everyone together.
I really need some advice, encouragement, insight ANYTHING!