Overactive Imagination, causing stress

Hi, I am 21yrs old and just found out that I am 5-6 weeks pregnant, I have always looked forward to this and always hoped it would be an enjoyable and happy time. However my mind seems to be running overtime and I am finding myself stressed and not as happy as I'd like to be. Alot of What If's? I need to shake my negative thinking so i can enjoy this time, but Im finding it impossible

hey becky

well im no expert but i was in the same position you are now when i found out i was pregnant didnt think that i was spose to feel like that at all but as time went by and i started to feel baby kick and move around it all became real that there was this baby inside of me and i got all excited smile so what your feeling is totally normal so just keep ya chin up and good luck to you hope to hear from you soon

Hey. I have a 17month old and am expecting my second in March. I think everyone gets really excited and worried about how their baby will be, will it be alright and how good a parent will I be. its just natural. Sit down and maybe write out all your concerns and then eliminate them one by one by finding out as much info as you can. i found it so much less stressful by knowuing anything and everything about my pregnancy and what some of the basic options were about stuff. I got a really good book that goes through quite a bt of stuff.
See ya

You sound just like me!

I am 28 and this is my first pregnancy, I have been wanting a baby for years and years, there was nothing wrong, we just though more financial stability would be better - HA, like there is such a thing! So we bit the bullet and jumped in head first, we got pregnant the second month!

So just like you I had REALLY been looking forward to this... I guess I had some vague notions of what was involved but I wasn't behaving in any of the ways I thought I would... I always believed having children was the most natural thing in the world, I mean people and animals do it every minute of every day - right?

Well, I couldn't believe the things that I was thinking and dreading... It felt like the most unnatural thing in the world! I thought I had an ectopic pregnancy, I thought I was having a miscarriage, I ate all the right vitamins but got back some bad blood tests so thought I had damaged the baby by my actions (dreadful guilt), then the blood tests were ok again, but then I was worrying I wasn't eating enough of the nutrients the baby needed in my diet without the vitamins, I read so much stuff and some of the warning signs were the same as the usual prenancy symptoms? etc, etc, I was so confused...

My best advice is to book in for the Nuchal Translucency Ultrasound at 11 - 13 weeks, not so much for the tests for down syndrome (which also puts your mind at ease) but more just so you can see your little jellybean - I absolutely LOVED it, I couldn't believe it was so developed already, with a cute little button nose! And I swear in the photo he/she is smiling at me! And I couldn't believe how much he/she was moving around in there - so I felt "surely somebody so active is going to survive the long haul"!!! And to see the heart pumping, well no words needed there...

And since then I just have this feeling of calm, knowing that everything is going to be just fine... I just look at that little picture on the fridge and have a giggle.

Like me, you may even have this scan before you have a check up at the hospital (I'm nearly 16 weeks and STILL haven't had my first general check up) busy at the hospital I guess...

You just need to go to any old GP and ask for a referral letter to the closest Ultrasound/Xray clinic asking for the NT scan and related blood tests, then call them at the clinic (number should be on the referral letter) and make an appointment - nobody told me this stuff so I hope it is useful to you?