PND - Will anybody help me?
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If you need someone to talk to about anything
e-mail me - darli@datafast.net.au
Lisa, SA, baby girl (4.5.03)
Your situation is extremely hard, I know.
There will be people around you who will go out of there way to support you...especially as you sound as though you want to help yourself.
This may sound stange, but one place you are quite likely to find help is thru a church. Not so much your traditional churches (Catholic, Baptist etc) but the less traditional - Christian Outreach Centre, Assemlies of God etc. There are always people within there that have been in the same situation and WANT to help others like yourself. They also offer free counselling service and it isn't all bible based. It's very practical help.
The Community Health Centres have free counselling available also.
There should be a Family Support Service close by. This isn't only for people who are already mums, but those of us expecting us well.
If you want, I have quite a few links with services such as Counselling, Mental Health - depression etc. You could email me and let me know what area you're in and I will see what help I can get you close by.
And don't worry, these types of services are used to working around people like your parents so they are able to help you without stirring things up amongst the family.
Let me know if I can help
shereemas@dodo.com.au
Sheree, mum to 2 plus 1 on the way (dd 31-5-06)
I am not sure where you live but as the others have mentioned I would go and speak to Centrelink you may find their support and the funds you will recieve will help you out.
Do you really think your parents will kick you out at a time like this? You really need their support now.
If you want to chat at all don't hesitate to email me at s_brooks@pjc.com.au
S Brooks, Hobart
Thanks for all your replies!
Those who left email addresses, you will more than likely hear from me very soon, but for those who didnt thankyou for your support and help. If anybody would like to email me my address is kels_msgs@hotmail.com
I will still appreciate any other advice anybody can give me
Thanks!!!
kodeybear@hotmail.com
is my email if you need to chat.
Narelle, Eilish 5th june 2002 TTC since dec 2002
My best friends little sister went through this all in 2002. She was 14 and a half when she fell preggie after her first sexual experience, and was 15 when she had her beautiful little boy Zakky. She hid her pregnancy from her entire family until she was 30 weeks pregnant, when her older sister (my best friend), figured out something was up and asked me for my advice. When I took her to a bulk billing GP, the Doctor and I almost both fell over when she lifted up her top and there was this perfectly round pregnant belly under all those big clothes! (And let me tell you, he was a mid-december baby so I think the jumpers in summer gave it away)...
I don't know which state of Australia you are in, but here in WA we have King Edward Memorial Hospital for Women, and they run the Adolescents Pregnancy Clinic once a week on a Wednesday afternoon. I am sure other States have the same facilities at their Womens and Children's Hospitals. This one meeting suplies you with the place to have your child, all the medical tests you need, support from a Doctor, a Midwife, a Psychologist, a Social Worker and if you're of the Religious nature, a Guidence officer in that nature as well.
I suggest you search for something similar, or if you are in WA, take yourself along there. You can get a referral to attend the Clinic either from a GP or from your School Nurse/Local Health Nurse. This team of people will help you to find a place to live, support for the remainder of your pregnancy, they will counsel you and your Parents, and they will offer you anything else you need. They continue their care after the Birth of your Baby with the child's six week health check, plus help in finding work, or resources to enable you to return to study..
Centrelink will also be able to help you, but as others have said, you really need to be medically seen BEFORE you go into Labour. That way if there are things that need to be known beforehand, it won't be an emergency in the long run.
If you need any further help, or more information you can always feel free to e-mail me, and if you like I can try and get you in touch with my best friends sister, who can give you a more personal experience. Her Parents also wanted her out of the house when her baby was born, but as soon as they saw him them melted and were in love. She was lucky, and I can't say what the outcome will be for you, but you definitely need support sweetie.
Take care, and if you want to it's emma@it.net.au
-Emma-
Mum to Belle 10.10.03 & Max (Born & Died) 24.07.02
Not too sure where you are but I know in Brisbane there is help for PRE-natal depression at the Brisbane Centre for Post-Natal Depression...there may be something similar in your state or territory.
Also you could call the Dona Marie Pre and Post Natal Depression Support Network on 1300 555 578.
I am keeping the number handy as I suffer from depression anyway and have had to come off my meds while pregnant....and I'm single with a 4 year old boy and only have the support of my friends.
Wish I could help you more...let us know how you go. Take care and remember you can't choose your family, but this baby chose you, so you must be special!
email jacksmum73@hotmail.com if you'd like to chat!
Lis : )
I was 18 when i had my little boy Parker and my parents found it difficult to except my pregnancy as it wasnt planned either but they came around when i was about 5 months. I lived with my parents till Parker was a month old. At he moment im living of the goverment which im not not proud of but i have no choice. I dont struggle and ive always got spare money. I see alot of young mothers that look like they have no money ( I cant understand what they spend all their money on? ) Parkers father left me when i was 3 months pregnant and i havent herd from him since, I dont think it hard raising my son by myself but it does get lonely. About your mum just give it some time she might suprise you and come around? but if she doesnt its her loss and she not a very good mother. Try not to stress on it to much its not good for you or the baby.
What state you in? i would love to help you out.
Thinking of you
Sarah & Parker
xx
P.s contact centrelink and tell them you situation they will help you out heaps.
Sarah, SA, 6week baby
I dont know if you can talk to your dad but do you think you can try and talk to him??? If you cant talk to him have you go any friends who you can talk to or maybe talk to their mums for advice.
I am not sure where you live but you can email me if you wish. marilynburrows@bigpond.com
I am a mother of two with the thrid on the way ( well due any time ) I live on the sunshine Coast if that helps.