After DS was born, it was a total shambles.
Everyone was totally disrespectful of our wishes. They would call constantly, bang on the door when we had the "do NOT knock. mother and baby are sleeping." on the door. They wouldn't leave when we asked them to. They would come over to "help" and end up creating more work for me and not let me get any rest at all. We got no space at all.
So, we have just called everyone and told them STRICTLY NO VISITORS FOR 2 WEEKS AFTER THE BIRTH!!! We want to spend that time bonding as a family and keeping DS's life as undisrupted as possible.
Our phones will be switched off on the day of the birth. Our home phone will be off the hook for the entire 2 weeks and our mobiles will be on silent. Anyone who knocks on the door will be turned away; no matter who they are or how far they have come.
My sister and her hubby and kids will be allowed to visit (DF and I are both very close to them and they are the only ones who are understanding, respectful, and helpful) and they will be minding DS while I'm labouring but, other than that - no one is allowed near us.
We will go around and visit everyone after the 2 weeks are up but, prior to that, it's our time as a family.