My goodness, i really wish i had reinforced this issue to my other half. our plan was not to tell his family that i had gone into labour, so they would not turn up at the hospital. My family are all interstate, so I just have the inlaws living locally. Being our first child, my other half freaked out when we got to the hospital and called his mother, who ended up coming up to the hospital. she first sat outside (to guilt me i think) and as the pain was getting worse, asked if she could come into the birthing suite. as i was in agony, i wouldnt have cared if the pope was in the room, so MIL made her way in, just as i thought she was planning to do. I did make her leave before the actual birthing part occured, but i did let her know i didnt want her around when i was in labour but she did not listen, or just did not care.
As for the hospital part, i had my MIL, SIL, FIL, the SIL's kids and my other halfs grandmother popping in at all times, and as one of you other ladies said, i would be breastfeeding at times, and have to stop.
eventually we told everyone we wanted time alone, not to come around as we wanted to bond as a family, and that has caused all sorts of hell. apparently i am some sort of a bitch as ''i dont want the inlaws anywhere near my child''. the truth of the matter is, i dont have time for visitors, and the SIL's kids are always sick with something or another, and i dont want to risk my babies health for the sake of my inlaws getting what they think are their ''rights'' to visit MY baby! MIL still comes around unannouced, but i am not having the SIL or her kids come around until after bub is vaccinated, and i think that is my right as a mother. MIL said she would not be buying the baby anything more if her family couldnt visit, but for one thing , shes bought hardly anything for the baby, and my family have sent more for our child up from interstate, which costs the earth in postage, and they NEVER get to see the baby except for in photos!!
sorry if this is such a rant, i have been having soo many problems with this subject, still do, had a huge barney last night with the IL's about it, that i need to get it off my chest! Talking about chests, my milk has started drying up as a result of all this stress , which is stressing me more, but the inlaws just say ''just put her on formula'' which i do not want to do! Breastfeeding is the only thing i can do for my daughter that no one else can do, and i dont want to lose that.
Good luck ladies in your quest for peace and quiet and respect from your familys, and good luck with your labours and births. thanks for listening to my long rant and rave! i needed it!!