Hi, I have a 4 year old and 3 year old twins, I am now expecting no. 4. I made sure when the twins were on the way my 1st knew what was going on with baby stuff and letting her feel the babies kick etc. Then tried to get her to help when they were born, not that she could do much because she was only 14 months old, but that seemed to help. I also made sure that I only had 1 main job every day, like doing a load of washing, or cleaning the bathroom, anything else that got done was a bonus, and I made sure I didn't stress if someone was coming over that everything wasn't done, it just wasn't physically possible! If they wanted to see us they saw the house in a mess too (unless I had a REALLY good day!) Now that they are a little older it's good, they are all nearly at the same stage of doing stuff, and now they are old enough to understand about a baby, and that they aren't getting left out, just reorganised differently. Just take a day at a time! Make sure your happy and get help from someone if you need it, it doesn't mean that you aren't a good parent, it means you are very busy!! And don't do things to try to impress others or because you think that THEY think you should do something, do what YOU think is best at the time. All the best in the future!
3 beautiful girls and a beautiful baby boy