I'm hoping that someone out there will take the time to read this post and give me some advise. I really need it at the moment.
10mths ago I moved to Sydney to start a relationship with my partner. I made the decision to leave my family and friends behind ( in victoria) to pursue a relationship with a man I thought I was happy to spend the rest of my life with. We had been seeing each other for a while and known each other as friends for many years. I decided that Sydney was full of opportunities and I would make the move.
Soon after arriving I began to discover cracks in my relationship, I began missing my family and friends terribably. My partner wasn't interested in making me a part of his family nor was it ' ok' in this eyes for him to spend the night at my house. Over the past 10 months I have been battling with him to stay at my house on weekends, to include me in his family ( he still lives at home with his parents) and make me apart of his world. I miss my family life and friends so much, and thought that his could offer some much needed support and comfort. It never happened though. Not only did he not want to make me apart of his greater family, he actually forbid me from coming to his parents house to visit him. I currently live in a shared house environment and he lives with his parents. I know this sounds as though we are a couple of teenagers, let me assure you that's not the case. I'm 27 and he's 34.
For months I have struggled emotionally. I miss my family and friends more then anything. My boyfriend says that I am suffering from depression and that I am mentally sick. I have been and seen a doctor about feeling down and lonely and have been advised that I am emotionally suffering due to the life change I have made.
To make things worse, 2 weeks ago I found out that I was pregnant. My partner was in New Zealand at the time. During those 2 weeks he was working and very busy, I felt that he neglected me and wasn't interested in my news. I found it very hard to deal with things by myself, only having a voice down the other end of the line didn't make things easier.
He returned home from New Zealand the weekend just gone. Due to the pregnancy and being away from family and friends I have been an emotional mess. I have tried to talk to him about offering me support and he wont. I have spoken with you about feeling sick ( I have constant morning sickness) and his reply is " your not sick, your mentally sick".
Last night we argued, once again. I mentioned to him that I couldn't have this child without support. Whether it be from him or his family, I need someone around. I suggested to him that we move in together and make this work. His reply was I will move when im ready. ( he is still yet to tell his parents). Knowing that im currently struggling this much, I don't want to be alone for this pregnancy. I suggested to him that if he wasn't willing to help me and support me I would have to move back to Victoria. To which he replied " I will fight you for custody or I will move to Europe so you never get a cent out of me" of cause I ended up in tears screaming at him down the phone saying " how could you say that, how could you upset me in my condition" His reply to this was " shut up before I come over and kick you in the stomach and you loose the baby"...
I'm really at a complete loss on what to do. I do love him, I do want things to work but I cant do this alone. My baby's health is at risk and nothing I say to him makes any difference.
Hopefully some of you out there could offer me some advise.
Thanks for listening.
[Edited on 13/06/2007]