Bianca, Qld, mum of Jaida (14mths old)
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I have just turned 27 and have a 21 month old and a 4 month old. I got married when I was 23. When I was 5 months pregnant with my first baby I turned 25. I too received quite a few negative comments from people at work. I got sick of people saying that I was too young to have a baby. It really bothered me at first but I just told them I was very happy about it and that people used to have babies young 20 years ago so why not do it that way these days?!
People also commented on how young I was to get married. When my husband and I went house hunting with his parents, agents thought we were still in high school and looked shocked when we told them that WE were the ones looking to buy a house not my husbands parents!
As far as the skinny comments go, if your body was not within a healthy weight range for your body type you would not have even been able to conceive! That is just nasty people saying you are too thin to have a baby. I think sometimes people can be envious/jealous and take it out on others through comments such as those.
I know its easier said than done but try not to let it get to you too much. Wait for the comments you get when you have actually had the baby!! Every mum regardless of age can tell you about what people have said to them about how to raise their children!
I hope you have a really enjoyable pregnancy and all the best for the birth
4 lovely munchkins DD 10/03, DD 03/05, DS 10/06 &
I am 23 years old, married and 33 weeks pregnant with our first. I haven't had any comments about my age ( YET ) but i have noticed that at our antenatal classes or everything we go to in regards to the pregnancy we seem to be the youngest and we get some funny looks off of the others.
I keep getting told by my darling mother in law (how doesn't think before opening her mouth) that I am going to have a huge baby. My friends who are pregnant at the same time as me are having small babies apparently (according to my mil) because they were SKINNY when they fell pregnant. this bothers me because I don't like being told that I was a fat cow before I fell pregnant especially seeing that I had lost 23 kilos on a big diet i went on.......... sorry for that but I needed to vent...
anyhoo, i think we still have lots of comments to look forward to especially once we have had the baby and people start trying to tell us how we should be doing things.... I know that isn't going to go down well with me but what can we do??????
Firstly, I also had my 1st child at 25, but because of my height (under 5 ft) I looked younger. And later into the preg, from about 7 mths onwards, I had people stop and stare at me. So I totally sympathise with people getting stares, comments, etc from unwelcome people, especially on the presumption of age.
I read recently that other peoples opinions are reflections on themselves. If they judge you, who are they to judge? Are they somehow better, than you or I? Most often not. I try not to judge others and parenting, pregnancy is not black and white.
My pet peeve with unwanted advice is that people presume that: a) you know close to nothing, b) their advice is very important & c) we actually care and are going to do as they advice.
During my 1st preg my mum was the worst with outdated, unwanted advice. This time around mum has pay-tv and is ringing me with useful info and tips, usually accompanied by the line 'you might find this useful' or 'try it if you want.' Knowledge is a real eye opener.
Best wishes to all.
Hope you give them as much back LOL cause i do as well.
TTC a baby girl
Add another pregnant lady to your list! haha. I was nearly 24 when I got pregnant with my first. Id been with my partner since 17 and we had been living together since 18. Yes, it was unplanned, but we were willing to take on the challenge of parents as we were in a loving relationship. My partner's(who is now my husband) father was the worst offender of all. He told us that our baby would be cursed because it would be born out of wedlock..fancy saying that to your own son, and about your own grandchild! I was disgusted. He wasnt the only one to go on about having a baby out of wedlock..and you know what makes it worse today...Hubby and i still have the same relationship as we did all those years ago, (yes we are a little older (29)), but it is now totally acceptable for us to have this little unborn child?? My born son is still as important and precious as this little bundle we are about to have, I just wished people could have been as supportive last time around (Hubby's dad is dying to take a trip to see us when baby arrives, yet he took 8 months to come down to see our son). It makes me feel really sick. Every child is precious, no matter how or when they are conceived.
Kelly, 22, 1 @ 25/1/04, 2 @9/3/05, [email protected]/4/06
I know plenty of people who have more money, more possessions, and less pressures that arn't half as happy as we are. My husband and I wanted a young family, now we do, and we couldn't be happier.
Hayley, NSW, Liam 07/02, Beth 09/04, Nate 03/06
I had my first baby when I was 19, and also found a lot of judgemental people out there, some even had the gaull to say that we wouldn't last, well ha ha to them because baby number 3 and 13 years later we are still together, good on you for starting your family when you are ready and don't take any notice of the jealous twits that critisise, I don't regret starting young even though my first was an accident, I just found out 2 weeks ago that I am pregnant with my third, oop's and some people have already asked me if its my second marraige just because of the gap between my kids. You know two of the people that commented on my starting a family young are now divorced despit waiting to have kids, you should do what is reight for your and your husband and tell them to mind there business.
good luck with all of your pregnancys and births i wish you all the best for the future