I am interested to see how much help you get from your family and friends?
My husband and I have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. My mother lives with us and helps out with the boys as much as she can... helps with feeding, bathing, dressing etc. Will look after them if I need to pop to the shops for something. We are so grateful for the help she gives us, she is amazing and has been such a great support. She spoils them rotten!
Apart from my mum we have no other help or offers of help from my husbands parents and their partners or other family and friends. I asked my brother in law to help my husband look after the boys while my mum and I went out for the day/night a a couple of weeks ago... We were gone for 7 hours and I found out my BIL was awake for 1.5 hours of that time. He was asleep when we left and asleep when we got home. I feel really let down by him and feel I can't trust him enough to consider looking after the boys by himself which he has dropped hints about quite often.
We've never had any offers of financial support regarding the boys. No offers of contributions to swimming lessons or activities etc from my husbands family. They make no effort to see them... I waited 6 months to see if I heard from them (which I didn't) before I contacted them to organise a catch up.
I guess I just want to know if this is normal... how much support do you get from your family? Am I expecting too much? I would have thought some interest would be shown in their lives?
My husband and I have a 1 year old and a 2 year old. My mother lives with us and helps out with the boys as much as she can... helps with feeding, bathing, dressing etc. Will look after them if I need to pop to the shops for something. We are so grateful for the help she gives us, she is amazing and has been such a great support. She spoils them rotten!
Apart from my mum we have no other help or offers of help from my husbands parents and their partners or other family and friends. I asked my brother in law to help my husband look after the boys while my mum and I went out for the day/night a a couple of weeks ago... We were gone for 7 hours and I found out my BIL was awake for 1.5 hours of that time. He was asleep when we left and asleep when we got home. I feel really let down by him and feel I can't trust him enough to consider looking after the boys by himself which he has dropped hints about quite often.
We've never had any offers of financial support regarding the boys. No offers of contributions to swimming lessons or activities etc from my husbands family. They make no effort to see them... I waited 6 months to see if I heard from them (which I didn't) before I contacted them to organise a catch up.
I guess I just want to know if this is normal... how much support do you get from your family? Am I expecting too much? I would have thought some interest would be shown in their lives?