Hi, my son is 26 and a half months old - I started him in Playgroup when he was 15months old last year and he was very clingy also and always cried even if i was a foot away from him, knowing himself that he could see me within an arms length, and still cried. After his first few months of playgroup he was absolutely awesome - interacting with kids and/or doing his own thing without any probs, but when we had the xmas break for 3 months and took him back this year in february, it was as if he had never been there before and so we had to start him mingling with others all over again, but this time it wasn't so easy and its still kinda hard to this day.
Although it was the big break that affected him, it was also another factor - there was a boy in his playgroup with ADHD and screamed really loud that'd pierce ur ears and mine almost bled (literally!), that freaked the shirt off my son's back and from that day he was terrified and never let me or my husband out of his site after that nasty incident. Up until this day the boy with ADHD has left the Playgroup into school now, so I have to start all over again - third times a charm, and slowly he's getting back into it - and slowly playing amongst the other kids.
The other clingy factor is also because we're home with eachother most of the week and rarely go out - about 2-3 times to the park or once a fortnight to his grandparents, and then some days we go shopping and out to relatives house, and he acts really silly sometimes and when i ask him to do certain things like say his ABCs or counting or reading to our family and friends he does weird stuff like he does this thing with his eyes and looks up (looks scary as if he were posessed - im really worried about that one!) and just simple commands like if he wants a lollie or something around other ppl he'll just do weird things like he's shy and just lays down on the floor and just keeps saying no, or he'll start throwing things - for e.g his grandpa will ask him if he knows a particular number and he just acts really weird and starts doing the eye thing again or throws or kicks stuff at his grandpa. He does it all the time when we're not near him, and i get really freaked out by the eye thing, and our relatives look at us weird, and sometimes i feel like crying, coz i feel like i've done wrong most of the time - there are times where he is a really good boy and he'll let me and my husband have our time together where he plays in his room - but most of the time I spend alot of quality time with my son as well as my husband, but the attention our son demands is never enough and this partly why he is also clingy. I think coz they're at this stage in their life is that their minds are set to their wants and needs only and only their feelings count mainly because their brains haven't developed the capacity to know how other peoples feelings, wants and needs are - so in theory thats a big part of what our son is going thru. I know i've raved on about alot of other stuff but this is kinda good to get things off ur chest and let others in to read and know that they'r not alone. Anyways above all, all we can do about our kids is to just enjoy them, encourage them, and let them find the stepping stones to life and let them encounter that there are better things out there in life other than just mum and dad. Its all about time and 'weaning' them off the clingyness - it takes a long while and im still on this journey - I hope this 'novel' helps LOL since its so long - I hope i can get some advice in return, and in advance many thanx...Cheers~Aaliyana =0)
Kalvin 17.6.2004 & Chelsey 7.3.2008