Posted by: C_hippie_kiwi
Well we are now on day 4 of flat out breast refusal and I am feeling pretty sh1t about the whole thing. I know that I should be happy because that means that he's made the decision (possibly) and that he doesn't need it anymore but what about me? LOL Maybe I am just being selfish?
He's come on leaps and bounds recently; he's finally walking by himself, talking up a storm and generally he's got lots going on and though I don't want to "baby" him forever I thought that I'd have a bit more time to come to grips with it....even if this has been going on for months now.
I have tried all the usual "fixes" and nothing seems to be working. Not sure anyone can help but have any of you had a toddler start refusing and got them back to the breast or was that it? Should have seen it coming I guess as it is exactly what DS1 did even though I handled it all wrong then and he was much younger.
Help, sympathy, time machine? LOL
Haven't got much advice, I've so far been lucky with my little man coming back on but I haven't really done anything that I know of. A lovely lady on another forum sent me this poem when we were going through a rough patch and although it brought on the tears it also brought me a smile. Good luck and I hope this helps anyone being weaned when they're not ready!
Wean me gently
I know I look so big to you,
Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have,
But no matter how big we get,
We still have needs that are important to us.
I know that our relationship is growing and changing,
But I still need you.
I need your warmth and closeness,
Especially at the end of the day,
When we snuggle up in bed.
Please don't get too busy for us to breastfeed,
I know you think I can be patient,
Or find something to take the place of breastfeeding-
A book?? A glass of something??
But nothing can take your place when I need you.
Sometimes just cuddling with you,
Having you near me is enough,
I guess I am growing and becoming independent
But please be there...
This bond we have is so strong and important to me,
Please don't break it abruptly,
Wean me gently,
Becasue I am your mother
And my heart is tender