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I was recently made redundant from my part time job so have been lucky enough to stay home for the time being with my 20 month old DS however I've already started to receive pressure to put him in daycare at least once a week to socialize him.

We regularly go to Mothers Group and he's babysat by both his grandparents occasionally so I can run some errands but is it really necessary that every toddler go to daycare for their development? I'm really enjoying being the one that takes care of him on a day to day basis.
[Edited on 01/05/2009]

Hi there, I wouldn't think daycare is necessary but perhaps a local playgroup, interaction with other kids develops social skills and doing things with little ones their own age plus the enjoyment for your little one is priceless, our playgroup does arts and crafts painting singing and dancing playing on the slide and trampoline in the huge sand pit, I was a bit reluctant at first , but I haven't missed one since she started last year, DD absolutely loves it ..it only a couple of hours a week and a slow transition into kindergarten for later on ...anyway best of luck in whatever you decide..cheers

Thanks for your reply NM smile

Oh my god, I read your post and started thinking "that sounds like us!"

We've just recently moved back to NZ from Oz and we're now in a small rural community. My in laws are BOTH on my back about taking DD (19 months) to playcentre and play groups etc etc, to socialize her. What they fail to understand is it's just not me, I went to playcentre once and HATED it. DD loved it, but I figure that if I'm not happy, she'll eventually be unhappy, so we are going down the route of one day a week at day care. I think that your son does need to do something with other kids, but if you're going to mothers groups etc, that should be enough. Dont let anyone pressure you into doing something you dont want to do. My daughter is plenty socialized, even if it's not with other kids. We go down to the shops most days and once a week or so we see friends with their sons.
Hi
It sounds like you are doing plenty already.
Daycares are really for full time working parents who need the care. Your little one is getting the best up bringing by the sounds of it.
Enjoy your little one and if you keep getting pressured tell them to take a jump!!! LOL
Some Daycares at the best of times are like baby farms.
all the best!

Elisabeth, 2yr old son and bubs due 17th june

Hi,
I've never wanted to put either of my two into day care I just don't like the idea of someone else looking after my baby, but thats just me ! I understand some mums have to work so have no choice to put them in daycare but if your at home anyway save yourself the money. I don't believe they NEED it at all. My daughter never went to any daycare, kindy anything like that except playgroup once a week with me and she just went off the prep this year with no problems whatsoever!! She can socialise with no problems and she has heaps of friends and never even cried on the first day, I was worried about her being upset about being away from me but the only one who cried on the first day of school was ME lol!!

Kristy,Qld- Emma (4) & Harrison (2)

HI Melissa,
congratulations on having the opportunity to stay at home with your son. My Daughter is 20 months and there is no way I would put her into Daycare. I do taker DD to a couple of playgroups a week (when I can) I also run a playgroup at padstow in NSW. I find that each group is very different, and often groups can be very cliquey, but try and find one if you can, as will help both of you. In the long run your son will be watching you to see how you interact with new people making friends, that sort of thing. I myself don't have any great friends from playgroups (that I met there), but I do get to socialise with them once a week. It also helps teach my Daughter sharing that kind of thing.

Also the things with playgroups is there are very different set ups. Some are more a mums social group, with no structure, so the kids just play with each other. Some are structured with singing/story time, Morning tea, craft, free play etc. SOme playgroups will roster you on to do things, like help with morning tea, set up craft etc. others will have volunteers who do everything and others will be a mix where everyone just helps out.

Hope this helps somewhat for you both.

Remember you are the best teacher for your child.

HI Melissa,
congratulations on having the opportunity to stay at home with your son. My Daughter is 20 months and there is no way I would put her into Daycare. I do taker DD to a couple of playgroups a week (when I can) I also run a playgroup at padstow in NSW. I find that each group is very different, and often groups can be very cliquey, but try and find one if you can, as will help both of you. In the long run your son will be watching you to see how you interact with new people making friends, that sort of thing. I myself don't have any great friends from playgroups (that I met there), but I do get to socialise with them once a week. It also helps teach my Daughter sharing that kind of thing.

Also the things with playgroups is there are very different set ups. Some are more a mums social group, with no structure, so the kids just play with each other. Some are structured with singing/story time, Morning tea, craft, free play etc. SOme playgroups will roster you on to do things, like help with morning tea, set up craft etc. others will have volunteers who do everything and others will be a mix where everyone just helps out.

Hope this helps somewhat for you both.

Remember you are the best teacher for your child.

It's not necessary, it's your choice. Some parents don't have the option to stay at home and therefore need to put their children in daycare. Just to point out, I have been a SAHM for 5.5 years and work around my husbands hours.
I had severe PND with my son as my mother passed away just after he was born, my counsellor suggested daycare for him once a week. Which I trialled. He hated it. At that stage, he didn't want to interact with "too many" kids and he was happy with one on one playdates or our mothers group. I was so worried it would affect his development and people would tell me he needed more interaction with other children.

Well he is now in Pre Primary and you wouldn't think he was shy when he was younger. Not saying your son is shy, or doesn't want to interact with other kids, but it may not be necessary and it is completely up to you. I believe babies and toddlers benefit greatly from a one on one relationship with their parents as they see the everyday chores, errands and responsibilities that come along with being a parent. Playgroup is great, it's great for you and your son.

Don't feel pressured, you know what's best smile

Thanks for all your lovely replies, I'm sorry it took me so long to say thank you smile

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