Annie, 3yr son, 8mth girl
So maybe you can get him to help you clean the toilet seat before you sit on it, put some food colouring in or get him to help you put in a "bloo loo" or something which he may be able to relate to visibly cleaning the toilet? If he has some sense of ownership of the toilet (or potty) he may be more interested.
Good luck. A week ago I thought it was never going to happen, but since then it's looking much more positive!
mum to 1y/o & 6 y/o
I have tried all the bribes. I have sat on the toilet floor and read books to him. Just recently I threatened to take away one of his favourite games and not return it until he sat on the toilet. The result was that he no longer needed to use his bowel because he didn't want to lose his game or use the toilet. Unfortunately as he gets older he becomes alot wiser and the fear of sitting on the toilet is growing out of proportion.
I have had him to the doctor and physically he is fine. The advise was not to make an issue out of it.
My son has told me he does not like getting his bottom splashed. He did use the toilet twice when we toilet trained him for wee and I beleive this may have scared him.
The solution for the splashing is to place toilet paper in the bowel. Unfortunately he will not be convinced.
Unless there is a solution out there, I will also continue to persevere.
Jenny, Bellarine Peninsula
mum of 3 boys aged 11, 13 and 14
shell great britain
Mother of Bryce and Jake
My 2 year old has the wee's completely under control and can come and tell me when he needs to go if we are out and all, I love it, but he holds on to his poos till the end of the day. So when I put a nappy on for bed he goes off and does a poo. It is so interesting as I have 2 trained at the same time, but in different areas and I just don't know what to do, except keep persisting.
I won't take my 2 year olds nappy off at night as I am scared he will hold all his poos in and do some damage to himself, although he hates wearing nappies now, and often will wake me up in the middle of the night to tell me he needs to go to the potty.
Any Suggestions would be appreciated
For the past five months when he asked for a nappy I would ask if he will use the toilet and I would refuse to give him a nappy. He would cry and carry on, but eventually he would at least sit on the toilet.
I know he would try but he was so scared it would hurt him that when he tried to push he would also attempt to hold on at the same time. After a couple of hours I would give in, praise him for trying and give him a break for 2-3 weeks. Last week we tried again.
After 2 hours of sitting on the toilet on and off crying with tears running down his face and I was kneeling infront him. He asked me if I would get him a nappy and I said no. Because he was tired and crying he screamed and at the same time by screaming it pushed the muscles in his bowel down and it came out. He realised it didn't hurt at all. He stopped crying, very happily finished his business and has been excited doing it by himself ever since.
Do persevere. Give lots of praise. Try very hard not to get frustrated and show your disappoitment.
They will all do it eventually.
Jenny, Bellarine Peninsula
She would ask for a nappy so she could do a poo.
My friend got her to sit on the toilet in her nappy to do her poo. After a while she cut a whole in the nappy, which her daughter knew about. Then they managed to take away the nappy. It took about 4 mnths.
anna, chch,17mth girl
sue keeffe nsw.
Sue, NSW, 3 Kids