My DD and DS are 25 months apart and I will be blunt with you and say that I did find it very hard when DS was first born. My DH works away 4 days and 4 nights a week interstate so sometimes I feel as though I am a single parent! However, the best advice I can give you is to involve your DD as much as you can in caring and helping with the baby, let her get the nappies, or help put cream on your newborn. I have also found that when DS was asleep, I used to lie on the couch with DD and have a cuddle. To hell with the housework, it can wait! When you have to go out in public, make sure you take lots of little treats with you so that your DD feels special if you have to stop and feed your newborn or whatever. They work good as rewards too. There will always seem like there is something else you SHOULD be doing for the first few months with a newborn and toddler, and you feel as though you cannot get anything at all done. At times like this, just remember that your children will only be this age and this small for such a short time, make the most of it because the second time around time goes even faster than the first. Once the baby is a few months old, then I cannot stress enough that you have a good bedtime routine for both of them. As I am on my own for 4 nights a week, my kids have a straict bedtime routine (the times can be a little flexible, but the events are always in the same order) and I am pleased to say that both of my kids go to sleep very easily and do sleep through the night. Just remember to involve your toddler in as much as you can to do with the new baby, and the idea of a doll is a good one too. And do not worry if your toddler has fish fingers a few nights in a row for tea, your sanity and well being is much more important than cooking gourmet meals and having a clean house! I have a magnet on my fridge that says "Good Mothers have sticky floors, filthy ovens and happy kids!" Also accept help if it is given, this is one mistake that I made as I wanted to prove to everyone that I could do it on my own!! Silly girl that I was! Good luck with it all, and always keep in the back of your mind that it does get easier as the new baby gets more settled into a routine as they get a little older.