angie, nsw, 2 1/2 yr & 14 months
I bet you are at your wits end. I'm pretty lucky (touch wood) with Ella (13mnths) that she sleeps through most nights. She hs been through plenty of little phases where she's woken lots of times during the night sometimes needing me to go in and re settle her other times settling herself but usually she falls back into routine fairly quickly.
My night time routine with Ella is... 5.30ish dinner followed by a bath around 6pm. She can then have quiet play. At about 6.45 i give her a bottle, then its into bed by 7pm (awake). She generally sleeps til 6.30ish the next morning. Lately ive been lucky with her sleeping til about 7am.
She's started throwing her day sleeps around a bit at the moment so occassionlly she has a late afternoon nap, if she isnt awake by 5pm I move the bedtime routine back an hour... still follow the same routine but put her to bed at 8pm instead of 7.
I got Ella a sleeping bag suite thing which made a Huge difference to her sleeping because she stopped waking up cold. Do you have these for your kiddies??
Belinda, WA, lovely baby girl
Anyway our routine:
Dinner at 4:30pm or 5 depending on what he's had for arvo snacks & what time.
Play outside or walk to the beach go to the park, anything to pass an hour.
Bath around 6pm
Bottle (now straw cup) of milk straight after bath.
Read a few books, bring out a special toy on some days - wooden puzzle type thing which he hasn't got the gist of yet.
Advise him that bedtime is approaching about 15 min prior.
And recently I have found that getting him to brush his teeth right before putting him to bed makes for less fuss.
So he's in bed by 7pm and wakes around 6:30 to 7am. On a fantastic day we get past 7am - pretty rare though! On a worse day he's awake at 5:30 or 6.
He only has one day sleep as of recently and it's moved from 10am to 1pm. Sleeps for 2Hrs max.
He is in his own room and always has been.
Another thing that sometimes helps is not to force him to lay down, sit him on the bed hand him a cloth nappy (his comfort instead of a dummy/pillow) and say night night, sleep well, see you when you wak up mummy & daddy loves you or something along those lines - it's not always exactly the same.
I found when he woke - and didn't settle himself just a firm, James go to sleep or something similar was good. Unless he got distressed.
And when putting him to bed if he whinges I give him 5 mins then go & tell him it's sleep time & go to sleep but settle him back down with cuddle or pat on back if he works himself up. Same for both day or night. Sometimes it took alot of control to keep myself calm and stop myself from just going in and yelling at him. When I took the dummy off him I sort of did the control crying thing to an extent, and just watching him was evident that he did not know how to get himself to sleep without it!
Good luck. I was the same when he was 15 months!
Kristina, Mum of James 3yrs & Matilda 14 months
My boy is 18 months old and has actually slep through the night since he was 10 weeks old! (very lucky I know) Don't get me wrong he can still have a bad night every now and then but it is probably about 3 a month which I can deal with!
My son has dinner at 5.30 pm then a bath at about 6. Then some play time with mum and dad till nearly 7 then we pack up toys and hop into his cot. I read him a story and he still has a dummy for sleep ( this doesn't cause us any problems but I know people say to get rid of them if you are having sleeping issues) He has a night light (we started this about 2 months ago after he woke up a few night in a row and the effect was immediate) Then a kiss, light off and door pulled to. If he does wake up at night I leave him for a bit before I go in. If he doesn't settle I use controlled crying (not for everyone but it works a treat for us) Remember if your angels are not used to sleeping through it takes perseverence and up to about a fortnight for a new routine to succeed. So lots of deep breaths, don't give up and goodluck!
Kelly,QLD, boy 23.01.03 and girl 08.04.05
Hope this helps.
Linda (Jessica 3/4/03, Caleb 11/4/05)
The eldest was always a good sleeper, sleeping through from about 6 weeks, but this changed once her baby sister was born, and required a total change of bedtime routine. Once I had a new baby, I found that I was often up with my eldest more during the night than with the baby.
My routine is quite different to the others - bath time is whatever time during the day fits with the 2 - very rarely is it after dinner, or anywhere near bedtime.
With the youngest she has dinner about 5-5:30, then gets a nappy change, and dressed into her pj's. She then had a bottle and is put to bed. Generally going to bed 6-6:30.
My husband generally arrives home about this time, so he spends time with the eldest while I cook dinner. The 3 of us eat together about 7-7:30. My daughter then has quite playtime. At 8:10 it is time to brush teeth, get a nappy and pj change and then bed, where we spend the next 20 minutes quietly talking and reading stories - a very nice time of the day - a cuddle and kiss and then lights out at 8:30. She will then tend to sleep through until 7-8am the next morning. We found the extra attention, particularly the stories in the evening made a world of difference in getting her to sleep through. We still have battles some nights in getting her to stay in bed once whe is there, but once she is asleep she will generally sleep though.
I did go to sleep school with the eldest when she was about 2 yrs 3 mths, and the routine and attantion where what they stressed.
mum to 2 girls