I got this off the raisingchildrens network. We tried everything before the hard-arse approach. wink
"If your child gets out of bed
There are two strategies that can work. Choose the strategy you feel suits you and your child the best, and stick with it.
Strategy 1: Return your child to bed
Say once, ‘Dominique, do not come out again. Please stay in your bed’.
Return your child immediately, gently and calmly to bed. Don’t talk, make eye contact or reprimand your child in any way. Do this as many times as it takes until your child stays in bed.
It might take many returns before your child stays in bed. If you use this option, you’ll have to be very patient. This might not be the best option for you if returning your child to bed is likely to make you very angry or upset.
Strategy 2: Restrict your child to the bedroom
Say once, ‘Dominique, do not come out again. Please stay in your bed’. Return your child immediately to bed without further discussion or argument.
If your child comes out of bed again, say, ‘Dominique, you have not stayed in bed, so now I will close the door (or the gate). I will open it again when you are staying in bed’. Return your child to bed, and shut the door.
Ignore any further calling out.
To keep your child in the bedroom, you can:
Erect a child gate. Your child will still be able to get out of bed, but won’t be able to come out of the bedroom.
Close the door until your child is back in bed and stays there. If your child can open the door, you could consider holding the door shut until your child stops trying to get out. The advantage of holding the door is that you are still nearby to ensure your child’s safety.
If you’re concerned that your child might be afraid of the dark, install a night-light.
Restricting a child to the bedroom can be a better option if tempers are likely to be frayed. It’s helpful if there’s a risk that you might lash out at your child through frustration and anger. But this might not be your preferred option if you are uncomfortable with closing the door.
Young people learn from experience. So who are we to try and stop them