Marlee is 18 months old, this has been going on for a year now.
She can't stand her dad.
What can i do, i think i need professional advice.
We've tried little things like he gives her treats and things like that but it's not working some days she's okay with him and more often than not lately i can leave the house and she's best friends with him but as soon as i come home she doesnt want a bar of him.
He'll ask for a cuddle and put his arms out and she'll drop to the floor and start screaming, he'll pick her up and she'll start crying.
Sometimes he'd just have to walk past and she'd start crying.
Sometimes she'll allow him to pick her up while im there if he's going to show her something, but if i even glance at her she'll start crying.
She's cries that much that she holds her breath and sometimes faints if we're not careful.
It's both emotionally and physically draining for all of us. i just want it to stop. what can i do?
You can't say give it time, it's something she'll grow out of, we've tried everything we can think of and she hasn't grown out of it, it's been one year.
I feel for him it's embaressing for him, he can't pick his daughter up and give her a hug, sometimes when we're out and i'm struggling with something he can't just take her from me because she'll start crying.
I'm trying to just ignore her when she does this and tell her off, but she'll just stand there for 30 minutes if i let her, just sobbing.
If i'm not home it's like my role goes to someone else.
She doesn't anything to do with dad but she'll follow her pa around and won't let him out of her site.
has anyone else had this problem or something similar??
If I were you I would set aside some special time for her and dad, prepare some really fun things she loves to do, like play dough or painting, dont set any limits, let them get all dirty, get dad to get down to her level and play along beside her, make him show enjoyment he is getting out of this playtime. And really encourage it, yourself, oh daddy loves to play dough with you it makes him so very happy, see his big smile!!... Does dad work long hours away from home? Is he involved in her? My husband works 70 hours a week and still manages to come home and help bath kids, get down on the floor build a tower, draw a rainbow, and read bed time stories.. Its all about building a bond.
Is he loud? does he treat YOU well? she will be watching everything..