I have a 20 month old, Nicholas who has combined banging his head with the tantrums. He will either throw his body on the floor and bank his forehead, or do the reverse. He also stands against a wall and does the same thing. At one stage it was happening most of the day and I was constantly in tears to my husband as I was 8 months pregnant and had no energy, or the patience that he requires. We even went to our doctor as I felt I would not be able to cope with him continuing like this and with a newborn on the way.
I was told by a few people that he is probably feeling there will be changes, with the baby arriving soon, but it didn't care why he was doing it, I just wanted him to stop.
We tried ignoring, smacking, and yelling and he will still continue. Thankfully he has settled down a bit and doesn't bang as often, but he still does it a few times a day on a good day. The only thing that works is as soon as he bangs or throws himself on the floor ready to start banging, we yell loudly and suddenly "don't do it", or "don't bang your head" etc and it seems to shock him out of it.
I have been told by a million people that he will grow out of these tantrums etc, but some days I feel as if it is only my son that is doing this and there is either something wrong with him or our parenting etc.
I've just had a little girl, Annaliese, 6 weeks ago, so hopefully she will be a little more placid than Nicholas!!
BUT - I would never give him up for the world!!!!!!!!
If anyone has any suggestions or has dealt with the headbanging issues - please pass on your thoughts.
Jackie, Nicholas 5.5yrs, Annaliese, 4 yrs