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Could you ever trust anyone again after this?
Ok, I have been in two long term relationships in my life. First one was with a man 6 years older then me who I had know for 10 years before we got together. After over 2 years together, i found out he was into child porn so reported him to the police straight away and left. This man also made my miscarry a few months before I found this out by pushing my down a flight of stairs the day I told him I was pregnant.
About a year later I got involved with my sons father who is my now ex. Ended up leaving him because of DV. He cheated quite frequently on me while we were together. Was with another woman when I was in hospital having DS.
Been single now for about two months and my mum is trying to set me up despite me telling her I just want to concentrate on my son, but honestly, I dont think I will ever be able to trust another one. Been with two very selfish, cheating a&%$holes, one very sick and I think now, whats the use? Everyone in my family is on their second marriage at least and they non stop tell me how much they hate it. Sorry about this post, just trying to get some stuff off my mind and get someone elses perspective on it.

Could you ever trust anyone again after this?
Ok, I have been in two long term relationships in my life. First one was with a man 6 years older then me who I had know for 10 years before we got together. After over 2 years together, i found out he was into child porn so reported him to the police straight away and left.
About a year later I got involved with my sons father who is my now ex. Ended up leaving him because of DV. He cheated quite frequently on me while we were together. Was with another woman when I was in hospital having DS.
Been single now for about two months and my mum is trying to set me up despite me telling her I just want to concentrate on my son, but honestly, I dont think I will ever be able to trust another one. Been with two very selfish, cheating a&%$holes, one very sick and I think now, whats the use? Everyone in my family is on their second marriage at least and they non stop tell me how much they hate it. Sorry about this post, just trying to get some stuff off my mind and get someone elses perspective on it.


Awww hun i dont blame you for not wanting to go near anyone again for a while what awful things to go through, hell iv only been walked out on and that has put me off being in a relationship, nothing compared to what you have gone through, maybe sit down with your mum and tell her seriously you are not interested. goodluck
You poor luv, wish I could give you a hug!!
My first long term partner cheated on me constantly, it took me nearly 6 years to move on.
My second serious relationship lasted nearly 4 years until he fell for someone else and wanted me to live in the house with them until he got it out of his system!! This one cost me a lot financially as well as mentally.
I swore I would never have another relationship as long as I lived, this lasted for almost 4 years, I went out and just enjoyed life and friends, getting to know who I was and what I wanted from my life. This was the most healing thing I could have done and taught me the value of loving and respecting myself first.
I am now with the most beautiful, honest, FAITHFUL, loving man who adores me and our little man +1 (nearly 8 years together now). He is a very different type of man to the other two and I think it was just that I knew what I wanted and wasn't prepared to accept less in my life. I had a lot of trust issues when we first got together (surprise) but I was honest with him and he was very patient with me.
Stay strong with your mum, only you know what you need! Perhaps you could tell her when your ready to meet someone she can organise your first blind date to appease her!! Don't let anyone rush you, you'll know when your ready to move on.
Good luck and I hope it all works out for you as well as it did for me, there are good ones out there!!
XOXO
I think for your own sake you need to move on and be positive about meeting someone good in future. You have to be selective about who you go out with and form relationships with. Dont settle for someone who doesnt treat you 100% right or does not have good morals etc.

If you cant trust again you will be missing out on one of lifes greatests gifts and that is to love and be loved. Just because these two let you down doesnt mean every man will.

You've definitely had a bad run but dont let it ruin your future.
My personal opinion is to do like you say and concentrate on your little one. I grew up with 3 "Dads" in my younger days, i swore when i had DD that if it doesn't end up working out with my DH(no doubts it won't) that it will be just me and her until we are both ready for someone else in our lives.

Good Luck
HI,

I know how u feel im only 26 and have just had my 2nd child ive been in a realationship that was fully of dv and drugs and that person was into swinger kinda of style which was not good wen i had a 19month old baby got me into all kinds of trouble it was so hard to get out off. I lost my frist son cause of this person he beat him and pulled his hair out this was back when i was 21 2 wks after i lost my son i finally got out and went into a womens shelter but he found out where i was so i left there and went up north he went to jail for theft of a car they were doing the jail up he was in ended up in the jail up where i just moved to found me threating me he was gonna track me down to kill me i couldnt trust anyone still fighting for my frist son now but not cause of cild safety cause this person wonts my son full time time and he arent the real father but my mother is helping him to get him. but now i got into a good realationship and engaged but i feel safe now as my partners dad and uncle are cops now we have a wonderful little boy. after awhile u will b able to trust someone but not everyone. if it wasnt dv,it was sexual abuse all my life. but never again. it can only get better. smile
Thanks. Unfortunately both men will be in my life for awhile yet. Still waiting for the court case against the first, and the second one is my sons dad and wants to see his son, even though he doesnt want to help out finacially. I just want to concentrate on creating a stable environment for my son, hoping to buy us a house in the near future nearer to my family and all of his cousins.
I believe that the father of your child should give you some kind of child support if he wants to see him, but thats not what your asking so back on topic.

I think that yes, over time you will be able to trust someone fully, although it will take time and it will be hard on you for the first few years of your new relationship. But i also think that you need some time out of relaitonshhips for a while. Spend that time with your son.

Best of luck.
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