hi tamara! it's me again.
you shouldn't feel stupid going to your doc about it, unless he/she makes you feel uncomfortable. then i think it's time to find a new doc.
in my opinion, you are showing classic signs of PND. if you scored really badly on the tests, then whoever gave it to you should have done more for you...ie referred you on to a social worker or something of the sort.
did you mean, though that those tests were with your 1st or 2nd? coz if you were bad with your 1st and nothing was done to help you, then i'm afraid that it probably just got 10 times worse when you had your 2nd (i know this from experience). PND makes you extremely moody and you can go from a terrific high to a depressing low in a matter of a split second.
with my 1st, my doc told me not to worry about the state of the house, just walk out the door and leave it behind and go and do something to cheer yourself up....go shopping, see a friend, go for a walk, etc. so try not to worry too much about the cleaning. it is very hard to get motivated for housecleaning when you have PND. when you get stressed, try to take a min (5 or 10 if you are able, but 1 is fine) out to take a few deep breaths or do something just for you - like have a coffee or something. (even if it means going into the toilet and locking the door behind you).
i know the feeling you have with your hubby and daughter. i think part of that comes from not being able to focus on too many people at once. you are probably using all of your patience and affection on your bubs and then you have none left for your daughter or hubby.
i hope i have helped a little in defining things for you. i really think you need some outside help.
3 boy bundles of joy under 6, qld