baby after loss

after 3 miscarriages in a row we now have another beautiful baby girl to add to our family of 2 boys and 2 girls I found this pregnancy very hard as the fear of losing her over rode the joy of being pregnant is there anyone else out there who has had similar and would like to chat

Hi
I'm sorry to hear that and I hope all is well for you and your family.

Di.

Hi,

Yes, i sooo know how you feel! Stress is a horrible word, but thats the only way i can describe my 3rd pregnancy! I also had 4 threatened miscarriages in the first 18wks, never did i enjoy that pregnancy! Its not fare hey!

Hope to hear more from you!
Tepe

It is not a nice feeling. After not intending to become pregnant, and then getting used to and excited about the prospect of becoming parents I lost our first baby at 14weeks. It then took us 12mths to become pregnant again only to lose that baby at 8 weeks. 6 weeks later I found out I was pregnant again and under the care of a specialist we were blessed with gorgeous little boy.

I stressed the whole time I was pregnant with Ben. I don't think that I was able to let myself enjoy the time because of the fact that we had lost the 2 previous. It wasn't until they handed him to me that I actually believed that we had a baby. We now have a daughter who is 3 mths old and was so much more a ease during this pregnancy, and really enjoyed being pregnant

It is very hard to enjoy a pregnancy after experiencing loss. My first pregnancy, I lost the baby at 8 weeks. I then became pregnant 4 months later, only to go into premature labour at 24 weeks due to an incompetent cervix. Alex survived for 12 hours. I never expected that my husband and I would have to bury a child at 25 years old. I fell pregnant a 3rd time, 6 months later - and gave birth to a beautiful healthy girl on 9/9/03 (only 6 days early). Although I liked being pregnant, I don't think I enjoyed it as much as I could have as I was constantly stressed about things going wrong again. Fortunately my obstetrician was fantastic. I found it hard to believe that we actually had this gorgeous baby that was finally ours. So many people take falling pregnant and having a baby for granted. Having been through loss has made me truly appreciate the blessing that my daughter is.

Hi andessa,
hi my name is cathy .I two had the same had the same thing happen to me but with a little added on when i was 17 i lost my first sone to sids he was 2 1/2 months old .I then conceved 15 months later with my now 10 y.o. whom i love very much, 7 1/2 years after an with a diffrent partner i fell pregnent only to lose this little gift at 15 weeks that was the worst thing that i could think of at the time .Then we waited one or two months after that we fell pregnent again only to be let down once more 6 weeks later ,we saw some Dr and he advised us to hold off for a few cycles then to try again and it worked .Now we have a 21mth old and he also is the light of my life.
sorry about the spelling but i hope things are working out fore you and yours goodluck.
Cathy 27 from Melbourne

Hello Andessa,
Sorry about your loss. I too suffered 3 miscarriages, the first and sencond were at 14 weeks and the third at 6 weeks. It took me 8 months to conceive after the last one. I was blessed with an easy pregnancy and a beautiful son (now 2 1/2). I was scared throughout the whole pregnancy. when I conceived with my Daughter I was more relaxed, but i kept threatening and was put on bed rest. She kept rtying to come early, but I made it through and ended up being induced 1 week early.

I don't think that anything that anyone says can put your mind at ease until you get to hold your child in your arms and see for yourself that they are alright. If you want to chat you can contact me at brownsand43@hotmail.com

Hi all,
I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks along. This was my 2nd pregnancy and my son was only 18 mths old. I was totally scared out of my wits and didn't know what to do. I've since given birth 3 times to very healthy children and am expecting number 5 in Feb. But, the first trimester is very nerve racking wondering if every cramp or spot is the beginning of the end. My misscarriage felt like a death. And I am still grieving. Sometimes the what ifs are unbearable to think about.

i am sorry to hear about your losses. my aunt had 5 weeks to go before she had her baby and she nearly died. the placenta tore away by its self from the wall of her uterus and braidon suffocated. she was rushed by air ambulance to an adelaide hospital and there when she was stabalised and ok since she lost a horrible amount of blood they made her give birth to him. he was born and died anzac day 1999 (25th april) i still think about him and morn his loss. and i would have only been his cousin. i am sorry to hear about your losses.

i am not a very religious person but god needed some more little angels in his kingdom.

and as long as you love, cherish and remember them they will FOREVER live in your hearts.

narelle

Hi,
I was lucky with my first, it was a breeze of a pregnancy, then an horrific labour. After Steph was literally pulled out then revived everything settled down and life was great. When Steph was 6 months I fell pregnant & while we werent ready really we got excited then I lost it at 8 weeks. I had one cycle after that and fell straight away I hadnt even got to the doctors and I lost it... my defacto & I agreed that whatever happened happened and after another full cycle we fell again... This time I was more careful but had a bleed at 8 weeks... Scared and on the weekend my in laws took Steph and I was relegated to the lounge for the weekend then in for an ultrasound and blood tests... All went well & Ben is 8 months old now (really big and healthy too)....

Life happens and all we can do is our best... when the bad stuff hits us it takes a piece of us away with it... I wish it didnt take these 2 pieces BUT it did for a reason and for that I have been blessed with Ben (& Steph).... Take what you have with the greatest of happiness & always grieve those taken from us no matter what age....

Hi there,

I sooooo know what you are talking about!! I had 2 miscarriages in a row before I conceived my first child. Then 3rd time lucky we had our baby girl. I felt like I was walking on egg shells the entire pregnancy... so scared to lose the baby. But I was blessed with a beautiful daughter, who means more to me that words can ever say!!! She is 12 months old now and I am pregnant with baby number 2. I fell pregnant straight away and have been terribly paranoid ever since. I had an ultrasound at 8 1/2 weeks and we saw a nice strong heart beat, but I still can't seem to fully relax. I am almost 11 weeks pregnant now and all going well am due to have this baby in July 04. I hope and pray everyday that it is all going to be okay. Not sure I could handle the heart break of another loss. So you are not alone in your feelings.

Take care,

Michelle smile

Hi andessa,

Sorry about your losses. I too had miscarriages two in fact. One at 12 weeks and the other at 17 weeks. I have just welcomed into the world my lovely 6 week old daughter Mirabi. I found it very scary especially when I threatened to miscarry again at 20 weeks but thanks to naphetapine and plenty of bed rest I and Mirabi survived the ordeal. Hope every thing goes well for the future.

Petangel23
Petangel23@yahoo.com.au