Hi Chelby, I feel so sorry for your friend. You just cant begin to imagine what she is putting herself through. I hope she is going to counselling as well, my heart goes out to your friends.
Here is another story that happened to people we know but they were lucky. They were at a major shopping centre in what you would call an average to above average neighbour hood. She lost sight of her son and luckly went running in the right direction to find her child holding hands with a young women who was taking him out to the car park, which was only metres away. The pair had walked a fair way without any one noticing something was wrong. Once the women was approached and her son cried "mummy" the women rang off and was not caught. They have it all on security camera but they have never caught this female. It turns out the women told the boy she wanted to show him something so the boy went with her without any struggle. The family are still in therapy.
I dont think anyone will ever forget what happened to the little boy in England when he was coaxed away by two 10 year olds. What about the little girl who was at school in class and asked to go to the toilet. What they didnt know was a creep was in the toilet (on parole from an earlier attack) just waiting and this poor girl was sexually assaulted. That really opened my eyes up.
We all know the importance of protecting our children against strangers but we have to be just as diligent with friends or family as they can also be a danger. I know of too many people who have had there lives ruined by friends or family molestering them. This is why they stopped the campain of Stranger Danger and started the Good Touch Bad Touch. We found an excellent CD Rom by Bravehearts Inc, a child protection group dedicated to protecting children against sexual assault. Bravehearts was started by Hetty Johnston who's own personal life was touch when her own child told her they had been molested by a family member. The CD has been developed to help adults show child how to learn to keep safe. It is very light and non confronting. The CD Rom covers - Instints, Feeling Unsecured or Scared, Yucky feelings, Private Parts, Saying "No", Good & Bad Secrets, Who do you talk to and Building your own Bravehearts Helper Plan. They have a website which is www.bravehearts.org.au.
I know this is probably more for the older children but we found it interesting in how you can bring up the topic with out terrifying your child. We know there are no guarantee's but hope if we can have an open dialogue/discussion with our son then if it was to ever happen to him, he may be more confident to get away. We can only hope.
I am in no way saying what has happened to chelby's friend or any one else was any ones fault or they should have done something different. It is a terrible terrible thing to have happened to anyone. The only person to blame here are the sicko's who take advantage of innocent children.
Thank you chelby for sharing this with us.