i am also sorry for your loss.
this is quiet a sad topic sad
i just wanted to add though, my parents never beleived that funerals were a place for children. so when my grandpa, great pop, great grandma and nan all died, we were never allowed to go to the funerals and say goodbye. when my pop died i was only about 5, and dont remember it very well. nan, grandpa and great grandma all died when i was about 11 - 13. anyway, i now feel like i never got to really say good bye to them. and to this day i wish i had been able to go. even if just to hear all the nice things people had to say about them. and listen to all the stories and memories everyone had of them. and even though i may not remember the funerals, i think it would be comforting to know i got to go and say good bye.
of course, it is your choice whether you allow children to attend funerals. but from my own experiences, i think i will leave the choice up to my children, if they are old enough to decide. i dont want to force them to go if they dont feel comfortable. But i want them to know they are always welcome to come say good - bye if they want to...