I know there are some mean MIL out there ...but i have had a few boyfriends and one husband and i have gotten along with all of them !! ...
I soemtimes feel that sometimes people dont get along with their MIL cause they either have their back up to start off with or they have done something wrong towards them and they just cant seem to move on from it !!
My MIL is wonderful ...seh has said some mean things to me in the past ..but I just sort of shrug it off and move on !! ...seh told me when hubby got really sick and needed a brain operation "well ....he was never sick when he lived with me " ...sort of implying that it was my fault he was sick ..that hurt a bit ..well ..a lot considering it was a birth defect that made him sick in the first place ...so in actual fact ..it had more to do with her htan it did with me !! but I can see that she was scard for her sons safety and she was lashing out ..I am a big girl ..I can take it !! ...but I can also look past why people say things as well ...sometimes it is out of jelousy ..sometimes out of fear ....but you cant just take what they say to you and run with it !!
I know there are some real cows out there ...and some of them need absolutly no forgivness what so ever ...but dont some of you think it would be worth the peace you get if you just looked behind what the MIL is saying rather than the actual words she is saying ??
thats jsut me anyway ..
I know there will be a haep of people now telling me how horrible our MIL is and what she has done to you ...and I am sorry ..this is not meant to offend ..I am just syaing ...just swallow your pride ...be the bigger person and I am sure she will forget to put you down or be horrible to you if she getts no reaction !!
I soemtimes feel that sometimes people dont get along with their MIL cause they either have their back up to start off with or they have done something wrong towards them and they just cant seem to move on from it !!
My MIL is wonderful ...seh has said some mean things to me in the past ..but I just sort of shrug it off and move on !! ...seh told me when hubby got really sick and needed a brain operation "well ....he was never sick when he lived with me " ...sort of implying that it was my fault he was sick ..that hurt a bit ..well ..a lot considering it was a birth defect that made him sick in the first place ...so in actual fact ..it had more to do with her htan it did with me !! but I can see that she was scard for her sons safety and she was lashing out ..I am a big girl ..I can take it !! ...but I can also look past why people say things as well ...sometimes it is out of jelousy ..sometimes out of fear ....but you cant just take what they say to you and run with it !!
I know there are some real cows out there ...and some of them need absolutly no forgivness what so ever ...but dont some of you think it would be worth the peace you get if you just looked behind what the MIL is saying rather than the actual words she is saying ??
thats jsut me anyway ..
I know there will be a haep of people now telling me how horrible our MIL is and what she has done to you ...and I am sorry ..this is not meant to offend ..I am just syaing ...just swallow your pride ...be the bigger person and I am sure she will forget to put you down or be horrible to you if she getts no reaction !!