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Child Care = Social Skills?? Lock Rss

I dont think kids need to go to daycare for social interaction. Preschool is important i think, for a day a week anyway, but thats for 3-4 year olds.

Ds goes to family day care one daya week but thats as i work certainly not for the social interaction. He pretty much ignores the other 3 kids there anyway as they are older.

Jack ''08 & Bump ''10

oh dont get me wrong, i think preschool/prep is important to prepare them for school and at that age, yes social skills are a good thing to learn for when they go to primary school but really, children under the age of 3 or 4 dont play actively together. its all solitary or paralell (sp) play at that age.
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If you want your child in CC to learn certain skills at an earlier age thats fine, but for our family school is plenty young enough for us.

My first 2 never went and they are not behind any other child because they were 'deprived' of CC. You know what when DS started school I remember hearing the comment that you could pick the CC kids because they knew how to use scissors. LMAO well theres a lifelong, superior skill to have but amazingly my DS knows how to use them now too and NOOO CC. DD1 does extremely well at school and No CC again.

I tried DD2 in CC but she hated it and seeing her little lip quiver was enough for me to say no because I had that option. I actually find she is so much more sociable with me around but yes this she will have to learn without me and as school starts next year that is a good age for us.

But each to their own in this regard I say...
oh dont get me wrong, i think preschool/prep is important to prepare them for school and at that age, yes social skills are a good thing to learn for when they go to primary school but really, children under the age of 3 or 4 dont play actively together. its all solitary or paralell (sp) play at that age


not always true , when df was working morning shift for a few weeks he came with me to get ds ( he is 22 months goes on a monday from 9.30 till 3) we were shocked at how much he played with the others, we would hide inside and watch out the window, he plays chase with the ride on bikes or push toys, builds blocks with the children, talks, points, throws balls and hold hands.

i def dont think it is something that kids need but for us i love it i dont think any1 has the right to tell u that ur child needs to go thats just not true it doesnt mean they will not b as smart or less social i can however see it has had a positiove impact on my son

gee that was shocking spelling sorry lol
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As an ex-teacher, my response to that is "so long as the child is socialised it doesn't matter where it happens". From reading previous posts of yours I'm pretty sure that you take Ashlee out to different places just about every day of the week so she is getting that interaction, you are just present.

With the whole "smarter" comment, this can be because the child is trained to do things that are taught at school so they are considered to be "smarter". However, while they might be able to do the activity, they don't necessarily understand/comprehend what it is they are doing/how they are doing it etc. I think in some cases it is purely the end result that is considered when saying a child is "smarter" rather than looking at how they arrived at the end result.

I think that it is useful for children to experience being cared for by someone other than their parents, BUT I think that it also needs to be done in an age appropriate way, in a way that the parents are comfortable with and with someone that you trust to care for your daughter in the same way you would. (That is not a comment against child care workers etc it is more towards grandparents etc as I know people on here often comment that their parents/in laws have VERY different views on raising children than the person on huggies and so they are not comfortable leaving their child in their care).

I will admit that at the moment Cassie does not attend child care and I don't plan on sending her for some time yet. I will consider sending her one day a week when I have a second child (will start before bub#2 is born) so that I have a day for one on one time with our new child. For me (and I am fortunate enough that we are able to have me being a SAHM) at this time, while I am not working and only have the one child, I don't see the need for me to put her into care to "give me a break/socialise her" etc. I know that for other people, sending their child to childcare is important and necessary and I don't judge them for doing so, it just isn't something that I want/need to do at this time.

Leisa.

I think it depends on the child and also on what you do with them at home. I have one friend whos DS only sees my kids and her nephew. She doesnt do anything with him just puts him on the floor to play while she watches DVD's all day (she told me this and no shes not suffereing PND). He has no routine what-so-ever for expamle he doesnt get his solids until after 8:30pm but even then it can vary from then until 9:30/10 (far to late). In his case he would be better off at childcare as he would actually have activities and stimulation as well as a proper routine.





leisah that is one of the most diplomatic and well worded posts i've read in a long time LOL

and i agree 100%



Posted by: *mummy*to*ashlee*
leisah that is one of the most diplomatic and well worded posts i've read in a long time LOL

and i agree 100%





lol smile it took me so long to be happy with how I'd worded everything before I hit "submit" that I timed out of huggies smile

Leisa.
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Posted by: Lovelygirl+boy
I think it depends on the child and also on what you do with them at home. I have one friend whos DS only sees my kids and her nephew. She doesnt do anything with him just puts him on the floor to play while she watches DVD's all day (she told me this and no shes not suffereing PND). He has no routine what-so-ever for expamle he doesnt get his solids until after 8:30pm but even then it can vary from then until 9:30/10 (far to late). In his case he would be better off at childcare as he would actually have activities and stimulation as well as a proper routine.


i agree with you on this one. if the child is stuck at home all day every day with no stimulation, then yes day care probably would be a positive thing.

To me, thats just plain lazy though. if you know your child needs the stimulation, you should be finding ways to accommodate that. isnt that the whole point of being a parent?
To me, thats just plain lazy though. if you know your child needs the stimulation, you should be finding ways to accommodate that. isnt that the whole point of being a parent?


Well call me lazy then sad(]
I call me exhausted LOL
i wasnt calling you lazy toni lol i was talking about putting your kid in front of the tv all day long because you cant be bothered!
Posted by: *mummy*to*ashlee*
i wasnt calling you lazy toni lol i was talking about putting your kid in front of the tv all day long because you cant be bothered!


well i will admit i am guilty of that on occasion as well. Heck, Sonja could put a DVD on herself at 2!!
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