Frankie - I missed the original post, but going on all the other replies I reckon you have just described my life!!
We have our own business, DF works 14hr days (that includes travel). On the days that he does come home early, I am at work and not home til 8pm myself. When he is home it's like he has no energy left for us, and also falls asleep at the drop of a hat. I can tell him something one night and the following, he has no idea what I'm talking about!
We also have set ourselves goals, paying off the business debts in 5yrs, paying off the house in 10yrs etc etc, but lately I really have been wondering if it is all really worth it.
We also want to move onto acreage and away from the 'burbs. I would love to be able to see my boys running around and riding bikes and having trees to climb in, etc etc!
I really feel like our relationship has taken a bit of a bashing lately, and am trying to work out how to fix it before it gets too late. The way I've been seeing it lately is, there's no point to the financial/materialistic happiness if it means our relationship fails and our children come from a broken home. DF unfortunatley justs sees the end result and can't see what's happening right in front of him at the moment!
So really, I'm sorry but I'm no help to you whatsoever cos I don't know how to fix my problems, but just wanted to let you know that I know how you feel, you are not alone, yip it sucks, and hopefully one day somehow it will all be better!!! LOL
DSS 13yr, DS1 4yr, DS2 3yr