Hubby and I are mid thirties as well, and 6 months ago we moved into a home that took us over three years to build. We did a hellofalot of it ourselves, and it was a hard slog. A lot of sacrifices along the way as well. But, in building it, it has put us into debt - not a huge amt going by what a lot of ppl we know oew, but we wanted a home that we would have for a long time, and we wanted it to be all about us. And it is. We could have stayed in the dog box that we lived in, and owed not a cent, but, we wanted comfort. In the building though, we did have luxuries and the odd holiday - nothing flash, but it was valuable family time. You can't get that back.
I have a BIL who is very wealthy. Very. BUT, their holidays revolve around leaving their daughter with grandparents while they have 'time to themselves'.These people are very self centred and I look at them at think that they are unhappy. I think the years of hard slog to get where he his, took the joy from their lives.
I work, I earn decent money, dh doesn't have a consistent income, but we do ensure that whilst we save, we enjoy life and spend time together.
I hope you can sit down with hubby and talk to him about these things. Kids grow way too quickly, and it would be a shame if you all missed a few fun times together.
Michelle
I have a BIL who is very wealthy. Very. BUT, their holidays revolve around leaving their daughter with grandparents while they have 'time to themselves'.These people are very self centred and I look at them at think that they are unhappy. I think the years of hard slog to get where he his, took the joy from their lives.
I work, I earn decent money, dh doesn't have a consistent income, but we do ensure that whilst we save, we enjoy life and spend time together.
I hope you can sit down with hubby and talk to him about these things. Kids grow way too quickly, and it would be a shame if you all missed a few fun times together.
Michelle