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on saturday night my mother pulled my partner by the ear towards her and when close enough she repeatedly punched him in the back because she was upset with him for not doing something she had asked.

I let it be for that night as I was in shock however the next day I confronted her about it and asked her please don't hit him again as it has upset him and her reply was "I warned him"
I told her that does not make it right and after many comments back and forth (by sms) she said that I was to never ever again tell her what she can and cant do adn that she is older and demands respect, and that she had "pleasure in hitting the wimp!" I told her she should be ashamed of herself and that I do not wish to hear from her or see her until further notice. To which she replied "Your choice"

I am deeply hurt by this whole situation. She is my mother and I expect her to respect my husband in our home. It would be different if it was a playful hit but it was an angry and forceful hit. I admire him for turning around and walking away although he was incredibly hurt and upset.

Do you think people should automatically receive respect when they are disrespectful to others?

Did I do the wrong thing?

strawberry*shortcake


Did I do the wrong thing?

strawberry*shortcake



OMG.. I cant believe your mother hit your partner WTF. And NO you didnt do the wrong thing, SHE did.

on saturday night my mother pulled my partner by the ear towards her and when close enough she repeatedly punched him in the back because she was upset with him for not doing something she had asked.

I let it be for that night as I was in shock however the next day I confronted her about it and asked her please don't hit him again as it has upset him and her reply was "I warned him"
I told her that does not make it right and after many comments back and forth (by sms) she said that I was to never ever again tell her what she can and cant do adn that she is older and demands respect, and that she had "pleasure in hitting the wimp!" I told her she should be ashamed of herself and that I do not wish to hear from her or see her until further notice. To which she replied "Your choice"

I am deeply hurt by this whole situation. She is my mother and I expect her to respect my husband in our home. It would be different if it was a playful hit but it was an angry and forceful hit. I admire him for turning around and walking away although he was incredibly hurt and upset.

Do you think people should automatically receive respect when they are disrespectful to others?

Did I do the wrong thing?

strawberry*shortcake


Does your mother hit you like that? Like is this a common form of communication from her?

Without knowing if this was very serious or just a half joking situation from your mothers perspective its hard to say.

But from MY point of view, I think you were right to stand up for your husband. It would seem like your mother does not like your husband and therefore is trying to belittle him. I dont think you did the wrong thing. Lots of marriages fall apart because the husband and wife dont stand up for eachother when their own families are the problem. Good on you. I would let you mum come back to you. Tell you mum that she has to respect your husband in your home and if she cant, then stay away.
WOW WTF !

I don;t know what happened, but WOW !
It was very much serious.

Her issue was that she had brought my children swings for christmas last year and the pegs are now loose in the ground and the swings wobble a bit if the kids swing too high. My partner or I are always outside with them when they are using the swings and lean on the swings to stop them from wobbling at all. We have been extremely busy over the last week since she mentioned that she wanted us to fix the problem "or else"
we agreed that it needed doing and would do it asap.

when she saw the kids on the swings on saturday afternoon she asked my partner if he had fixed it as yet, he said no not yet, i haven't had a chance to find some better pegs. this is when she said for him to come over to her but as he was getting ready for us to go out she went up to him and pulled him by the ear and starting hitting him.

She has never really had any issues with him before so I am still very shocked this has all happened. I just don't know what to think. She is very much a "woe is me" kind of person and everything is always someone else's fault, and to her she "warned him" so it was okay.

I just don't know.

strawberry*shortcake
wtf that's assault and over pegs omg
Hi Strawberry Shortcake

I'm sorry for the situation you are in. It is definately not a normal way for any person to react, especially your own mother. I sincerly hope this did not happen in front of your own children. It seems to have stemed from concern for your childrens safety but never is violence ever ok no matter how it is done or who it is done to. You have done nothing wrong and sounds like you should be very proud of your husband for remaining calm. You both deserve an apology. Don't let her minipluate you into thinking otherwise. She is a mother and she should know better. Remember respect has to be earned!

Hope all resolves for you soon smile Hang in there!

What your mother did was so wrong.
She seems to get angry very easily. Have you ask her why she so angry for? cause it just can't be over pegs. There got to be more to it.
You did the right thing, it your house and you and your partner should be respected.




What you mother did is wrong, is disrespectful to you, your husband and your children. Its also abuse. You did the right thing in confronting her about it.

Dean Alex 14/09/2007 ; Adrian James 08/10/2009

BLOODY HELL!!
Sorry but she has some serious issues.
That kind of abuse is wrong.
I dont care what he didnt do its just plain wrong.

If my mother did that to my partner i would have asked her to leave, or escorted her out of the house and gave her a piece of my mind.
Your poor husband, how he must of felt.
She obviously needs some help with her anger and whatever is bothering her.
I would ask for and expect a full apology to your hubby and you for what she did.

She would not be welcome in my house till things were soughted out.
Again sorry, but How dare she??

Talk to her and tell her how you feel and if i were your hubby i would be telling her what i thought!!
Thank you all for your helpful replies.

I have been considering emailing her as I just don't want to talk to her but I don't know.
I wouold be concerned about having someone with such an explosive temper around my children also! What she did is totally inappropriate and unaaceptable!

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