feeling a lil hurt

Big hugs to you!!

I can relate, as i am one of 10 kids! I'm right down the bottom too, number 7. So yes sometimes i do feel asthough i have to compete with my siblings.
But at the end of the day, i'm happy with everything. My parents have their lives, plus 10 others to worry about, so certainly it can be busy.
The thing i have learnt about having a large family is that, family will always be family. No matter what you guys go through, or say to eachother there is a bond there that will last a lifetime.

I would talk to your mum about how you feel. It may go well for you, and she may realize what she has done all of these years. Or, things could remain the same. Atleast you have given her something to think about.

My father and i have never got along, and just recently i lay everything out on the table.I wrote all my feelings down first, then asked if i could have a moment and read it out. I told him things i would have never dreamed of teling him.Things i have carried around for years on my shoulders that made me resent him.after i told him, Nothing changed. He just blamed me for all his actions for all of these years and nothing was solved.
But within myself, i feel soooooo much better because now, i don't have to carry anything around with me. My dad heard everything i said that night, and he has something to think about. In ways, we are closer. Because i hold nothing against him now. Yes, he blamed me, but i feel as though we have something to work with now. Instead of me just being hurt and wanting more from him.

Your mum is your mum. She certainly does love you and care for you and your family, otherwise she wouldn't ring you. Just find within yourself the strength you need to talk to her about it. You have nothing to lose at the end of the day. And the 2 ways it will go are not too bad. You may be a tad disapointed if it doesn't go the way it planned like i was. But it is certainly not a reason to hold back anything

thank you for your kind words, it's appriciated.

hey, you look a little familliar to me, like a girl i went to tafe with?
Are you from sydney?

It is my pleasure and no, I am from Tassie until January this year. I am now in Brisbane.

So when do you start your course?

Naw, its understandable you are hurt.

My younger sister is the favourite in our family, its annoying and unfair but there's nothing I can do... still hurts though no matter how old you are, everyone needs their mum.

Parents eh? The hurts or negative experiences we've had growing up as children give us all a great reason not to repeat the same mistakes with our own kids! As long as YOU are proud of you, that's the main thing.

aww thanks guys

thank you for sharing your stories and your advice.

it's interesting hearing about other peoples family dymanics and how they fit in and how they deal with it, it's given me something to think about.

i guess i feel that doing this course is a turning point for me and it will better my families life and i will have acheived a goal i wanted for so long and to have no acknowledgement just hurts a bit.

but none of us are perfect , right <img src='https://www.huggies.com.au/forum/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/dry.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='<_<' />

i'm due to start 30th may and can't wait.

Could your mum be "projecting" onto you? Meaning, that perhaps she did not get to fulfil the dreams she had in her life, and is now a bit jealous that you are getting to fulfil yours?

My mother was a bit similar in that she was adventurous and lived overseas before coming back, getting a job, meeting my dad and getting married.
When I got to the same age and didnt want to do that too, she was a bit weird about it, kind of like "well I did it, why dont you?".
It is possible you arent moulding to her version of the life and dreams she had in her minds eye for you and she cannot accept that.

But, you go for it, dont live your life with regrets, sounds like you are doing amazingly. Plus even though your mum mayn't acknowledge your successes, others will. Well done grin

Could your mum be "projecting" onto you? Meaning, that perhaps she did not get to fulfil the dreams she had in her life, and is now a bit jealous that you are getting to fulfil yours?

My mother was a bit similar in that she was adventurous and lived overseas before coming back, getting a job, meeting my dad and getting married.
When I got to the same age and didnt want to do that too, she was a bit weird about it, kind of like "well I did it, why dont you?".
It is possible you arent moulding to her version of the life and dreams she had in her minds eye for you and she cannot accept that.

But, you go for it, dont live your life with regrets, sounds like you are doing amazingly. Plus even though your mum mayn't acknowledge your successes, others will. Well done grin

you know what i think you hit the nail on the head...something to ponder.

thank you so very much, you wise old owl, will.i.em wink

you know what i think you hit the nail on the head...something to ponder.

thank you so very much, you wise old owl, will.i.em wink

Most welcome grin
But enough with the "old", I'm 33 years young bahahaha tongue