this will be a bit long, and is quite deep smile so bear with me!!
i saw something yesterday that really warmed my heart, and i realised that it it would have regardless of this persons ability.
i was walking our dog and had DD in tow in our regional park and there was a disabled lad with his dad picking up rubbish (bless him!) they were all set for a long walk and had bags to put the rubbish in etc.
i am going to start a topic here that has a few facets and i am going to ask that people discus this topic in an open and non aggressive way...i will respect your beliefs and you respect mine.
i will also say i am a person that is for choice and whilst i might not agree with peoples choices sometimes when it comes to this topic, i accept that i am not in their position and that the choice is theirs.
so that said i often think of peoples opinions of disabled people and the reasons behind why people choose not to continue the pregnancy when they find out they are having a disabled child. and also peoples opinions of disabled people in general- i.e. some people feel that they are a drain on society, that nature "made a mistake" and so on.
i personally feel that a lot of things aside there is still such a stigma attached to having a disabled person in a family and wonder if the stats would be different if the stigma was diminished...
i have heard reasons such as medical expenses, staying at home to care for the child, special school costs etc, which are all valid in themselves, i wonder also however if people could take other tests during pregancy for other things (i am getting a bit "crystal ball" here grin ) would they also choose not to have that child?
such as if you knew your child would develop leukemia and need tens of thousands of dollars spent on them to help them through life would you still have that child? or if you could test for autism or deafness or random other disabilities that would cost you large amounts of money, mean you had to stay at home etc would you still choose to end the pregnancy?
i know this is all VERY general and is a sensitive topic, i am in no way trying to have a dig at anyone or cause any ill feeling. i just honestly would like to try and understand peoples reasoning, feelings etc.
the lad i saw yesterday was contributing to socirty, doing a job most people wouldn't just up and do. i also have a friend who works with disabled people and they work, they love, they chat over coffee with us and talk about the hot girl at work (simple jobs but they still do them- every working day of the week), about what happened on the train, about their families etc.
i feel they do provide, and whilst i know there are some people out there who are so disabled they cant contribute, i dont find them any different to some perfectly able person who chooses to sit on their behind and do nothing, claiming off the government and whiling away time.
sorry for the novel!!
so feel free to put in your opinion/ reason etc.