I also have the Womens Weekly kids birthday cake book, which is great. For Paiges first birthday we just had a family and close friends (around 20 people) for late lunch come afternoon tea (fitted in around Paige's sleeps). I had a diaster with the icing for the cake I was making, ended up having to ring the local bakery who do cakes and get them to make one for me, it ended up just been a square cake with pink icing and happy 1st birthday. I was sooo stressed out about the cake diaster that I was in tears about it when I went to collect the one from the bakery. My mum reassured me the next day the cake probably won't be the thing that Paige will remember it will most likely be the pressies.
This year I made up for it big time, and made her a butterfuly cake, which was beautiful and she loved it.
Just try to relax and don't get stressed out (believe me it can be stressful).
Rachel, TAS (Paige 21/6/02)