How old were your kids when you had the op? How long before you could lift them, do housework, do usual every day stuff? How does the scar look now? Sorry to ask lots of questions, but I've never spoken to someone who has actually done it
kids were 3 and 4 so old enough not to be upset if not lifted. I was doing housework (slowly) about 2 weeks in. it is more the swelling that was annoying. I went back to work 2 weeks after at my office job. was still painful but just towards the end of the day from being up and about. the swelling is the worst part of the whole thing cos that takes quite a while to settle down. 6 - 12 months of swelling but really only something you notice, not anyone else. you will have loose pants in the morning and they will tight as by the evening.
I am just past 12 months and the scar looks really good. faded heaps. my surgeon said I scarred really well and probably after 2 or 3 years it will be barely visible. it does not hurt at all now but I still get a little tightness there sometimes if I have done too much so I feel like there is still some healing going on but no pain.
yes it does hurt, especially coughing, sneezing and stuff as your muscles start to learn how to behave again. but it is worth it.
happy to answer any queries.