Pinkie Pie wrote:
I know this sounds harsh but maybe you'll just have to say that until he tries to make it good, or at least better for you, you want to atop having sex for a while. Maybe it will help him think about your needs a bit more.
As a man he would feel so belittled and emasculated by not being able to perform. This could be embarrassing and depressing for him. I think the issue is more than just physiological and its something that needs medical attention to fix. He needs support, love and encouragement to go seek help. Wayward can you go with him to the doctor?
I did not mean that she should belittle him, but he also should be willing to get help. Waywad said she had made him a Drs appointment and he wouldn't go. They have tried sprays etc and they did not work. I agree they should go to the Dr together which is why I suggested a sex therapist in a previous post. My DH would do whatever he needed to if he had this problem, as he believes sex is supposed to be enjoyable for both. If I'm not enjoying it, he doesn't enjoy it. Waywad should definitely love and support her partner with his problem, but the problems aren't going to be fixed if he's not willing to try some more solutions.
No i didn't mean you meant that. I meant he'd already feel belittled for the reason that he can't perform and satisfy his wife. Nothing you said Nay7. I was just giving the opposite advise to you.