I have seen it a fair bit on huggies where people refer to my money and his money etc or that they were given an allowance or whatever. I personally think its strange. My view is if youre in a partnership, even if you contribute different things to that partnership (eg working, SAHM etc) doesnt make you any more/less entitled to the reward. Just like for eg a sports team (lets say netball), just because one person plays defense and the other persons the shooter doesnt mean that when they win it was the shooters "win" because it was her that scored the points, it was a joint effort and they ALL get to share in the reward. A relationship is the same concept as far as I'm concerned, particularly when youre living together and have children etc.
DH and I both have access to each others accounts. We have our own accounts that our pay goes into, and then a joint account, and a joint credit card. The only reason we have seperate accounts is because a) it worked out cheaper and b ) it has saved up having to change the account details with our work, change eftpos cards etc etc. Lol. When DH pay goes in to his account, he pays all the bills and puts our set amount on the mortgage. Any leftover he leaves a bit in his account for places that dont take credit cards etc and puts the rest in the credit card. When I get paid unless there is something we need it for I either put it all on the credit card or sometimes some in the joint account to move later as it seems to disappear faster when its on the credit card. Lol.
We both spend what we want when we want and are just sensible about it. He is a bit more of a spender than I am but we're both pretty good. If we have big purchases we want to make we will generally mention it to the other but thats about it. And we both have access to each others so its not always me that moves my pay to different accounts etc, sometimes DH does it or whatever. smile