Particularly Interested to hear from teachers- Jazool and doublewammy if you're around. Also from mums who have or have had preps/foundation students.
Well, as some you well know my ds started prep this year. After a bit of an up and down start he was fine and made friends and seemed to have settled in quite well. Until about 2 weeks ago he has gone right backwards and is really upset when it's time to say goodbye at drop off. He cries almost every morning sad he has always been a sensitive little soul but being dropped off and time away from me is not new to him as I am a working mummy and have been since he was 6 months old, he was in daycare 1-2 days a week and with my mum also. He says he doesn't like school and hates being away from me for so long and gets very nervous and anxious about going. He is always fine when I pick him up and runs out in to the playground to playbwo his friends before going home and his teacher has been fantastic in helping with the tears at drop off and says he's ok a few minutes after I've left- which I know he would be. The thing is it has started to overflow into everyday life and he is getting upset when I leave to go anywhere without him sad like grocery shopping on the weekend he stayed home with dad but was anxious about me going and asked about 10 times how long I'd be and don't be too long mummy and you will come back won't you mummy? He's also coming into our room every night about 3-4am. I've put a mattress in there as its happening so much.
My question is how would you approach this? I get him to tell me how he feels and what he's nervous about and try to reassure him and make sure I'm always there waiting at home time so I'm never late. I know he has a good time at school and he's doing quite well there too, but it's destroying me leaving him there crying every morning sad I'm not sure the whole tough love thing would work here as I don't want him to feel his feelings aren't being validated and palmed off. I'm just really stumped as to how I can help him feel good about going to school..?
Well, as some you well know my ds started prep this year. After a bit of an up and down start he was fine and made friends and seemed to have settled in quite well. Until about 2 weeks ago he has gone right backwards and is really upset when it's time to say goodbye at drop off. He cries almost every morning sad he has always been a sensitive little soul but being dropped off and time away from me is not new to him as I am a working mummy and have been since he was 6 months old, he was in daycare 1-2 days a week and with my mum also. He says he doesn't like school and hates being away from me for so long and gets very nervous and anxious about going. He is always fine when I pick him up and runs out in to the playground to playbwo his friends before going home and his teacher has been fantastic in helping with the tears at drop off and says he's ok a few minutes after I've left- which I know he would be. The thing is it has started to overflow into everyday life and he is getting upset when I leave to go anywhere without him sad like grocery shopping on the weekend he stayed home with dad but was anxious about me going and asked about 10 times how long I'd be and don't be too long mummy and you will come back won't you mummy? He's also coming into our room every night about 3-4am. I've put a mattress in there as its happening so much.
My question is how would you approach this? I get him to tell me how he feels and what he's nervous about and try to reassure him and make sure I'm always there waiting at home time so I'm never late. I know he has a good time at school and he's doing quite well there too, but it's destroying me leaving him there crying every morning sad I'm not sure the whole tough love thing would work here as I don't want him to feel his feelings aren't being validated and palmed off. I'm just really stumped as to how I can help him feel good about going to school..?