I'm new to this site as i have only recently found out about it. I have been reading a lot of the other forums on here and I decided i would share my story and ask for advice on my extreamly stressful situation.
Currently i am 27wks preg with my first child. The father of my baby is a complete loser and I left him a good 3 months ago. I had only been together with him for 2 months when I found out i was preg, and he & his mother kept urging me to get an abortion as he was not ready to be a father at such a young age. ( he is younger than i am). Naturally, I did not listen to them and began to prepare myself mentally to become a single parent. There is no way he would be fit enough to play any role in my childs life anyway as while we were living together, I was the one who was supporting him financially, he wouldn't go out and get a job, plus he has a past involving drugs, although he's now clean, which causes him to this day still to have anger issues.
Anyway, since i have left him he has been calling me and begging me to take him back as he claims to have had a change of heart on being a father. I refuse to take him back, which has now caused my current problem.
He recently phoned me & threatened me that if i don't take him back, once the baby is born he will take it from me as his family "know" people who can influence the legal system and I can kiss my child goodbye. Now I'm intelligent enough to realise that these are all just threats as he is not getting his way, however, I am somewhat alarmed by what he is saying as I am not up to scratch on parenting legalities and since i really don't know him or his family all that well, I want to take precausions in case he is going to cause serious problems for me. Has anyone else been through a similar situation who could offer me advice or does anyone have any suggestions as to what I should do?
I have to also add that I met this "loser" while i was going through a painful seperation with my husband at the time and now that my husband is somewhat in the picture again as he's helping me sort my life out, the baby's father is even more threatened.
I know, this sounds like an episode of the bold and the beautiful. I screwed up my life royaly.
Any advice would be much appreciated.