I really do hope you come back and read this post. You certainly hit a few heart strings with me. Firstly I too have lost both my mum and dad, and while my in-laws are wonderful people noone can ever replace your parents.
I feel very sad for your loss, and can relate to you in so many ways. I feel sad that my mum and dad will never hold my daughter in their arms and even sadder now because I am 23 weeks pregnant with my son.
When I was in labour and it was pretty hard going for me by the 13th hour, i just cried and inside all I could think was 'I want my mum'... I am sure she was with me in spirit... but its not the same.
Raising a child without your mum to turn to is hard and I find a lot of people don't understand my struggles with this. My mum has been dead for 15 years and so the immediate pain is less, but the long term pain is harder.
Also you said the song stairway to heaven was played at your mum's funeral... well believe it or not that is the song that was played at my mum's funeral too!! I can't even listen to the song it makes me feel sick.
In all my years of sadness I have learned on thing to be true... Us mum's without mum's will do all we can to make sure our children never feel the sadness in their hearts that we are feeling.
Just makes you appreciate all the more how precious being a mum is... and how precious life is.
I'd love to chat some more with you... like you said "it's not often you find people in a similar situation!"
Thankyou for sharing your feelings at this post... I am still incredibly overwhelmed at how much I am not alone in my feelings.