I do not like my mum’s husband and I have good reasons for it.
Yes I am hung up on the past, yes I have been to counselling and no I will never get over what he has done.
My main problem is he calls himself "Pa" and everyone else also refers to him as "Pa" I have my own father who I have a beautiful relationship with who is my girls "Pa".
I told my mum he is not "Pa" and she needed to tell him before it becomes an issue, she said she wouldn't hurt him in such a way! I am too scared to say it to him. What can I do?
The worst thing is he has been good to me in recent years and so everyone else has conveniently forgotten or never new the past and think I’m being rude and making a big deal about nothing.
When I see him he is good with the girls and he really thinks he is their "Pa" he and mum don't even care to think I have problems, they have also forgotten everything.
I am scared when the kids are with him, I don't want mum to miss out on being a "granny" but she isn't respecting my wishes. I told her I didn't want the girls on their own with him ever. Then I went shopping to arrive home she’s in bed sleeping and my girl is up with just him.
Mum rolls her eyes and changes the subject if I try to talk to her about anything in my past.
My sister understands where I am coming from, however she doesn't have kids and she puts pressure on me to fix the "Pa" thing, and puts me in the middle. Saying things like can you say "Granny" can you say "(first name)" then he will say its "Pa" so now he drills it to my girls I just want to scream "You’re not their Pa" but I’m way to scared.
I feel like a scared little kid, and I’m not sure if I’m scarred for myself or for the girls.
HELP ME PLEASE, anything will help advice, understanding or a similar story!!!!