Hi Yvette & Victoria
You're right IVF is pretty hair raising! We stated trying for a bub 6 years ago, at that time we were living in the UK. The health system over there is APPALLING my husband was told that there was no way ever of him being able to have his own child and that we should look into doner/adopt. Needless to say we were less than impressed! We moved back to Aus late 2001, i went to see a GP in jan 02 who then referred us to melb ivf. Saw a dr there in march, did all the tests, was told that my hubby could have a bub, but it would have to be icsi. Anyway we concieved on our very first go! We were just over the moon. My pregnancy wasn't an easy ride though, i was constanly worried that something would happen to our bub...v.v.v neurotic! I also had unexplained bleeding and developed pre-eclampsia, so bub was a few weeks early and i had to be induced (never again) He was also a difficult bub in the begining, he did't like to sleep and pretty much screamed most of the time, never woke up happy and i, was on edge trying to be the most perfect mum that there ever was, and feeling guilty most of the time as i kept telling my hubby that we had made a huge mistake in having this child and should put him up for adoption, among other things.
Naturally i fell into a heap! We found out that reflux was the cause of the screaming and sorted it out, we found out that bub is very nosy and just wants to be awake all of the time (even now at nearly 11 mths) but more inportantly i found out that there is no such thing as a perfect mum. I adore my son and really couldn't imagine life without him. I still think babies should come with an individual manual and the baby blues should be banned. I also think that there is sometimes too many people around you after the birth of a new bub with too many conflicting ideas. It gets soooo confusing at times.
Great talking to you
mum of 1