vic,5y/old& 9mth old twins
I'm just 9weeks pregnant and looking for some support from anyone. I'm so happy about being pregnant but I keep getting upset all the time. My partner is great and he is excited about the baby but I'm feeling a bit of pressure about becoming a mother for the first time. He wants to give our child everything and I think that's great, but I'm scared he is trying to overcompensate for his not so good childhood. I'm worried I won't be as good a mother as he expects. Does/did anyone else feel this way?? He's reading this book called Rich kid, Smart Kid because he wants our children to be rich and have everything. Please help..
Lisa, Qld, Mum to be
Congratulations on your pregnancy. Don't worry too much, we all want the best for our children. I know my husband and I spoilt our first and bought her everything we never had as children and yes we want both our girls to be set up financially so they don't struggle when they are older. I think it's natural for parents to want their children to do better than them and succeed in life.
Just enjoy being pregnant for the time being - you will have plenty to do when baby arrives. Have you talked to your partner about your feelings?
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Vic, 2 girls - 9 yo & 17mth old
I don't think there's a mother alive who hasn't felt the same way, I know I did constantly worrying about what kind of mother I would be and how I would cope, I completely freaked out, but when you hold your baby for the first time nothing else matters at that moment, my son is by far the greatest thing I have ever done, has it been easy - hell no but I wouldn't trade him for anything, my only regret that I didn't enjoy my pregnancy more. You only get one first child and one first pregnancy so make the most of it spoil yourself and relax you will be amazed at how different your life and husband will be.
I think it's good that your husband is taking a real interest your child's future, as long as he doesn't put to much pressure on himself and your child to perform. Its early days yet take it easy; everything always works out in the end (even if takes a while to get there).
I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and enjoy!!!!!!!!!
Jean, Qld, Ethan 14/8/03
Lisa, Qld, Mum to be
I would love to hear any stories you have for me especially your labour story.
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My name is Tracey. I have 3 kids, 10.5 years (boy), 8 years (girl) and 8 months(boy). I too had really bad "day" sickness with my first son, and "afternoon/night" sickness with my last son. If you are interested in chatting, my email address is email@example.com
Mother of 3, Qld